I'm horrible... I broke up with my ex boyfriends and I kinda still have feelings for them now, but not alot... but I flirt with both of them ALOT!!! And I hate it, cause I think I might be sending them the wrong message, and i really hate cause they're my friends and I spend time with both of them... alot... so i always flirt... even when they are both around.... And one of the two mentioned it and I don't know what to say... I don't want to say I was just flirting, cause I don't want to hurt him, but I don't wanna say I still like him a little, cause it was a bit of an uncomfortable relationship we had (7 months, 7 grade, real into it)..... in 8th grade now.. me and the two boys....
Help would be nice..
a. what should I say to my friend
and b. how can I controll my flirting
I flirt to much, how can I stop?
Think before u say something. Everytime u r talking to a guy, think before u say whatever u r going to say to him and make sure it's appropriate. Good Luck!!!!
Reply:maybe you should find some new friends, but still care about them
Monday, May 4, 2009
Whats wrost.. a bunch of flirts.. or one really close flirt?
okay... heres the situation.. i have a bunch of little flirts.. but boyfriend has one close flirt.. whats worst?.
yeah i flirt with other guys.. but its not as close as he has with one of his friend..
the guys tell me im attractive and i giggle and flirt back..
but with my guy he has a chick that calls him baby, and talks about seeing eachother and having dinner..
i never hang out with the guys i flirt with.. its just like a 5 min flirt..
im so insecure.. i need help.. do i have the right to get jealous?
Whats wrost.. a bunch of flirts.. or one really close flirt?
well, yeah...jealously is a natural thing.... who cares, tho? its only flirting...don't let it get to ur mind...
Reply:flirting is one thing. but these girls are taking it too far. and you need to regulate this because if you don't he might just accept one of there offers.
here is what you do if you can catch one of these hoochies telling him to get with her. don't say a word to her and just PUNCH HER IN THE NOSE....
put every thing you got behind that one hit. yes it will hurt your hand but it will send the message and they will know that they have gone too far. but you your self must stop flirting with other people because you might be sending mixed signals out to someone.
Reply:If they're talking about going out to dinner I say you have EVERY right to be jealous, in fact I would confront him about it, and if he is dating this girl too, DUMP HIM IMMEDIATELY!
yeah i flirt with other guys.. but its not as close as he has with one of his friend..
the guys tell me im attractive and i giggle and flirt back..
but with my guy he has a chick that calls him baby, and talks about seeing eachother and having dinner..
i never hang out with the guys i flirt with.. its just like a 5 min flirt..
im so insecure.. i need help.. do i have the right to get jealous?
Whats wrost.. a bunch of flirts.. or one really close flirt?
well, yeah...jealously is a natural thing.... who cares, tho? its only flirting...don't let it get to ur mind...
Reply:flirting is one thing. but these girls are taking it too far. and you need to regulate this because if you don't he might just accept one of there offers.
here is what you do if you can catch one of these hoochies telling him to get with her. don't say a word to her and just PUNCH HER IN THE NOSE....
put every thing you got behind that one hit. yes it will hurt your hand but it will send the message and they will know that they have gone too far. but you your self must stop flirting with other people because you might be sending mixed signals out to someone.
Reply:If they're talking about going out to dinner I say you have EVERY right to be jealous, in fact I would confront him about it, and if he is dating this girl too, DUMP HIM IMMEDIATELY!
Three guys flirt with me?!?!?
these three guys have flirted with me, right. i like two of them. but the problem is, when they're flirting does that mean they like you? or does it mean they just want to flirt with you? i have tutored two of them in algebra, and flirting was done more than studying. then the other one used to like me, but i think he likes me again. i don't know what to do. everyone that sees us flirting, comments about it. they are all really nice guys and everything, but all three are quiet and shy guys. they are really hard to find out the way they feel. any ideas?
Three guys flirt with me?!?!?
u have to just make the move to ask them why they flirt with u then u need to tell them that u like it when they do so they dont think that u dont like it and they stop then u have to single one out the one u like the most or one that u can see ur self stayin with for the longest then u just gotta keep talkin to them a lot nd if they dont like u they r gunna just get tired of flirting and ask u out
Reply:1 idea your a FLIRT... listen to the song
Reply:yepp they like u!!! =]
Reply:ask them.
Three guys flirt with me?!?!?
u have to just make the move to ask them why they flirt with u then u need to tell them that u like it when they do so they dont think that u dont like it and they stop then u have to single one out the one u like the most or one that u can see ur self stayin with for the longest then u just gotta keep talkin to them a lot nd if they dont like u they r gunna just get tired of flirting and ask u out
Reply:1 idea your a FLIRT... listen to the song
Reply:yepp they like u!!! =]
Reply:ask them.
How do guys flirt? What do they do?
I've had this one guy flirt with me and I flirted back but he did not like me.Later he started hanging out with this other girl more instead(I had fun flirting w/ him though). This other time I made a mistake. I liked this other guy and I told him I really like him on e-mail but he told me he didn't like me like that. I flirted with him but I don't think he flirted back. How can I tell if a guy is sincere? How can I tell how a shy-ish guy flirts? Thanks. :-)
How do guys flirt? What do they do?
some guys are really scared. they will flirt with you one minute, then be seen with another girl another minute. it doesn't mean that they don't like you, it's just that when they begin to feel (emotions) they run. it's really sad though because i know you run across some really nice guys but the second they begin to feel anything. they run. a shy-ish guy will usually do things that you wouldn't classify as flirting. they usually do things that are low-key or childish. like hitting you just to have a reason to touch you or talking about you in a mean way. it doesn't mean that they don't like you it's just that they don't know how to express themselves so they do little weird things that would make you think that they hate your guts when really they can't get enough of you.
Reply:Look in the mirror. If you are hot, he is sincere.
Reply:Everything that they said, but shyish guys don't flirt. I would know im one of them. If you see a guy a guy you like give him a seductive look like your posing for playboy and just go up to him and grab his crotch.
Reply:dont throw yourself to guys, theyre not worth it
just give guys time to make the first move (flirt move)
some day me and my sister walk home from HS and we get hella guys honking at us, but i dont think thats flirting thou
Reply:Shy guys like to steal your hat and run to the other side of the playground.
Reply:When I flirt with a girl, I smile a lot, and I look at her in the eyes. I touch her a lot too.
Reply:um staring at you form a far or like hanging with yo uand your friends instead of his ...
Reply:I don't know about other guys. If I were to flirt with someone, I'd estimate if she's ready for the flirt and then pull her hair, touch the back of her neck, touch her thighs, tickle her, hold her waist or if I am intimate with her, I would caress her breasts.
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How do guys flirt? What do they do?
some guys are really scared. they will flirt with you one minute, then be seen with another girl another minute. it doesn't mean that they don't like you, it's just that when they begin to feel (emotions) they run. it's really sad though because i know you run across some really nice guys but the second they begin to feel anything. they run. a shy-ish guy will usually do things that you wouldn't classify as flirting. they usually do things that are low-key or childish. like hitting you just to have a reason to touch you or talking about you in a mean way. it doesn't mean that they don't like you it's just that they don't know how to express themselves so they do little weird things that would make you think that they hate your guts when really they can't get enough of you.
Reply:Look in the mirror. If you are hot, he is sincere.
Reply:Everything that they said, but shyish guys don't flirt. I would know im one of them. If you see a guy a guy you like give him a seductive look like your posing for playboy and just go up to him and grab his crotch.
Reply:dont throw yourself to guys, theyre not worth it
just give guys time to make the first move (flirt move)
some day me and my sister walk home from HS and we get hella guys honking at us, but i dont think thats flirting thou
Reply:Shy guys like to steal your hat and run to the other side of the playground.
Reply:When I flirt with a girl, I smile a lot, and I look at her in the eyes. I touch her a lot too.
Reply:um staring at you form a far or like hanging with yo uand your friends instead of his ...
Reply:I don't know about other guys. If I were to flirt with someone, I'd estimate if she's ready for the flirt and then pull her hair, touch the back of her neck, touch her thighs, tickle her, hold her waist or if I am intimate with her, I would caress her breasts.
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He flirts a lot with me, so how do i flirt back?
this guy named brent is really cute, and he's always flirting with me. (%26amp; i can tell). his lockers next to mine and he always like 'hip bumps' me and goes 'oh i'm so sorry'. we've hugged a few times, also. he bent down to get a book from my locker and i'm like 'jeez move' (jokingly) and he started grinding his butt against my leg (lol). how do i flirt back and make him want to flirt with me even more? :]
He flirts a lot with me, so how do i flirt back?
Sounds like you're doing a good job so far, just keep it up. Say everything playfully and always keep smiling. They like promiscuous girls haha.
He flirts a lot with me, so how do i flirt back?
Sounds like you're doing a good job so far, just keep it up. Say everything playfully and always keep smiling. They like promiscuous girls haha.
I'm a flirt?
I'm happily married. Everyone I work with knows this. And they know my wife. A coworker this morning told me that I'm a big flirt. Her explanation is that I am very friendly with women and joke around a lot. When we asked a 3rd person, she agreed that I'm a big flirt.
My question is - is it flirting if I don't know that I'm doing it? Is it all in the eye of the beholder? In other words if you think someone is flirting - they are? Or does the person flirting have to be aware.
They all seem to think it's cute and don't want me to stop. But if I'm flirting, I'm sending the wrong signal. Am I supposed to not be friendly? I don't cross any lines and don't touch anyone. What do I do.
I'm a flirt?
you sound like a good person to be around. I wouldn't change a thing, unless it bothers you and your wife, as long as you know what you mean by the way you act then don't worry about what other people think about it.
Reply:Well if you are happily married you wouldn't be flirting. 3 women told you that you flirt...so you probably do. I would change your approach to women. Their's a balance between being nice/ andbeing "nice". You need to find that balance before something goes down
Reply:well unfortunately for you ( and me your not alone) thats just apart of your personality. but even if you dont think your flirting you are and even if you think you dont know you do know.so be less forward ask your wife what specific behavior she is and isnt ok with then go form there.
Reply:Yes that definitely means your a flirt.
Reply:think about the things that you are saying, can you change the words so that the meaning is the same but not as forward.
Reply:you don't have to know if your a flirt but you shouldn't be to friendly.i mean a little hi/bye won't hurt anyone but not to much.people might think you're interested.Good Luck!!!
Reply:flirting means different things to people. as long as you're not crossing the line or being gross. but if you're just funny and a nice person to hang around with, it's fine but it can be addicting. so, stick to small jokes and a bit more professional. if you realize this, it shows character and chances are you're a good person who won't do anything wrong.
Reply:yes it is and your retarded for asking that
Reply:Since you say you are happily married...try putting your wife into the work scene and "flirting" just as you say you think you do. Would it bother you for her to be doing it? Or if your wife came to your work place would you change your actions just because she is there? If you have to be different then maybe you should look into who it is you truly want to be.
Reply:Flirting is ...playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest. if ur doing that %26amp; ur married then u need to quit. If ur just smiling and being nice then there is no harm in that. Women however do take that as flirting. I once had a coworker the same way %26amp; when I gave him my number he never called. That's b/c I took it the wrong way I thought he was flirting when he was just being nice....so duhhh did I feel like a loser.
So make sure not to send the wrong signals be careful b/c ur a married man %26amp; u wouldn't want that kind of reputation buddy!!
Reply:Ask your wife what she thinks!
She'll tell you.
My question is - is it flirting if I don't know that I'm doing it? Is it all in the eye of the beholder? In other words if you think someone is flirting - they are? Or does the person flirting have to be aware.
They all seem to think it's cute and don't want me to stop. But if I'm flirting, I'm sending the wrong signal. Am I supposed to not be friendly? I don't cross any lines and don't touch anyone. What do I do.
I'm a flirt?
you sound like a good person to be around. I wouldn't change a thing, unless it bothers you and your wife, as long as you know what you mean by the way you act then don't worry about what other people think about it.
Reply:Well if you are happily married you wouldn't be flirting. 3 women told you that you flirt...so you probably do. I would change your approach to women. Their's a balance between being nice/ andbeing "nice". You need to find that balance before something goes down
Reply:well unfortunately for you ( and me your not alone) thats just apart of your personality. but even if you dont think your flirting you are and even if you think you dont know you do know.so be less forward ask your wife what specific behavior she is and isnt ok with then go form there.
Reply:Yes that definitely means your a flirt.
Reply:think about the things that you are saying, can you change the words so that the meaning is the same but not as forward.
Reply:you don't have to know if your a flirt but you shouldn't be to friendly.i mean a little hi/bye won't hurt anyone but not to much.people might think you're interested.Good Luck!!!
Reply:flirting means different things to people. as long as you're not crossing the line or being gross. but if you're just funny and a nice person to hang around with, it's fine but it can be addicting. so, stick to small jokes and a bit more professional. if you realize this, it shows character and chances are you're a good person who won't do anything wrong.
Reply:yes it is and your retarded for asking that
Reply:Since you say you are happily married...try putting your wife into the work scene and "flirting" just as you say you think you do. Would it bother you for her to be doing it? Or if your wife came to your work place would you change your actions just because she is there? If you have to be different then maybe you should look into who it is you truly want to be.
Reply:Flirting is ...playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest. if ur doing that %26amp; ur married then u need to quit. If ur just smiling and being nice then there is no harm in that. Women however do take that as flirting. I once had a coworker the same way %26amp; when I gave him my number he never called. That's b/c I took it the wrong way I thought he was flirting when he was just being nice....so duhhh did I feel like a loser.
So make sure not to send the wrong signals be careful b/c ur a married man %26amp; u wouldn't want that kind of reputation buddy!!
Reply:Ask your wife what she thinks!
She'll tell you.
Why does he flirt one day, and next week, he ignores me?
we're in 9th grade and. he goes to my church.
He flirted with me a lot one sunday where i thought he liked me. He has a really sweet personality. Next sunday, he doesn't seem interested in me at all. He ends up flirting with one of my friends. I don't understand him. Maybe he's young and he doesn't realize that he flirts with girls. When I do get his attention, he flirts with me again. But, he flirts with my friend too. I learned from someone that he doesn't like anyone currently. Why does he flirt with me one sunday? then he doesn't notice me the next sunday? I don't even know if he's interested in me anymore or was ever interested. :/
Why does he flirt one day, and next week, he ignores me?
It sounds like he is just distracted, or in a different mood from time to time.
He flirted with me a lot one sunday where i thought he liked me. He has a really sweet personality. Next sunday, he doesn't seem interested in me at all. He ends up flirting with one of my friends. I don't understand him. Maybe he's young and he doesn't realize that he flirts with girls. When I do get his attention, he flirts with me again. But, he flirts with my friend too. I learned from someone that he doesn't like anyone currently. Why does he flirt with me one sunday? then he doesn't notice me the next sunday? I don't even know if he's interested in me anymore or was ever interested. :/
Why does he flirt one day, and next week, he ignores me?
It sounds like he is just distracted, or in a different mood from time to time.
Am i a flirt my friends say yes but...?
my friends say im a flirt cuz im always talkin 2 the guys and lyk giggling and playing with my hair lyk everyday but i dont think of it as flirting but they ALL say i am and now i feel bad cuz if i am flirting with them i dont lyk all of them but i still do it and they start 2 lyk me so i feel bad cuz im leading them on and thats not me its all just rely confusing can u help
and guys wat do u think when a girl flirts with u
wat makes u think they r even flirting with u
and does it make me seem lyk a ***** 4 that or do guys lyk being flirted with?
please help
♥Babii luv
Am i a flirt my friends say yes but...?
Flirting is trying to get a guys attention on purpose and trying to get them to like you on purpose. If you are not trying to do these things on purpose and it is, maybe, a habit that you play with your hair when you are talking to guys, then don't feel bad. Guys might like being flirted with but don't like a tease. You be the judge on this one.
Reply:if you're friends say that you are a flirt, chances are, you probably are...
i think you already know the answer to that... this day and age, you really have to be careful about sending out the wrong signals. guys don't like teases and that can cause bigger problems down the line.
Reply:You know very well that you're a big flirt but it's ok. Flirting is cool and fun just dont play like you're ditzy or dumb for those guys if you know what I mean. And you don't have to flirt ALL the time. Tone it down a bit. And if you can't tell the difference between when you are flirting and when you're not just think b4 you speak and don't say anything to a guy that you wouldnt say to a girl, that's assuming that you are straight.
I'm guessing you're really pretty b/c that's the only time that other girls complain about another girl flirting. When ugly or fat girls flirt everybody thinks it's all fun and games but when pretty girls do it they look easy like a h**. So since you're so pretty and all, why not just stop the flirting all together and let the guys flirt with you. This will make you more enticing to the guys b/c you're not in their face all the time. You know guys like to chase and they like a challange. This will also save you some girlfriends b/c they won't think you're always trying to move in on their crush.
Reply:There's nothing wrong with a little fun flirting. It's human nature, but leading guys to believe that you'd date them when you wouldn't is wrong. And no, it doesn't make you seem like a (insert stupid, vulgar label here).
Reply:its ok to have a swagger about urself. symbolizes that you are a confident person.
Reply:honestly i think guys do like it if there single and unfortunetly some that aren't so do whatever but i don't think other girls are ever gonna like it
Reply:when you talk to the guys, just kindda make it notisiable that u are not interested:)
Reply:guys love to be flirted with ,it makes them feel liked
Reply:Seems like you know the answer to me you know you are. Girls like you annoy me. It's like the i am so fat comment when you are a size three. You basically said you are a flirt yourself save the 5 points next time.
Reply:I think it's honestly about the way one rubs off, and if you're like all jittery, touchy,giggly then yes you may be coming off to them as flirty. You really have to be careful with the way you act around people b/c everyone hasn't different reactions to things and you don't want to make yourself look like that b/c then girls are gonna start to think of you as a slut. So just be careful ok.
Reply:its easy just tell them you ses them as good friends or you can mention that you have a b/f anything like that so they will know that ur taken
Reply:if your single and unattached, flirt while you can, it is part of being young and having fun
Reply:Guys are gonna get tired of you when they realize that you flirt with everyone else. Yea we like to flirt (at least i do) but it makes me mad when i feel like a girl is just usin me to feel good about herself. Just try to tone it down a little bit. Definition of flirting to me is: giggling, physical contact, and just certain looks girls give.
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and guys wat do u think when a girl flirts with u
wat makes u think they r even flirting with u
and does it make me seem lyk a ***** 4 that or do guys lyk being flirted with?
please help
♥Babii luv
Am i a flirt my friends say yes but...?
Flirting is trying to get a guys attention on purpose and trying to get them to like you on purpose. If you are not trying to do these things on purpose and it is, maybe, a habit that you play with your hair when you are talking to guys, then don't feel bad. Guys might like being flirted with but don't like a tease. You be the judge on this one.
Reply:if you're friends say that you are a flirt, chances are, you probably are...
i think you already know the answer to that... this day and age, you really have to be careful about sending out the wrong signals. guys don't like teases and that can cause bigger problems down the line.
Reply:You know very well that you're a big flirt but it's ok. Flirting is cool and fun just dont play like you're ditzy or dumb for those guys if you know what I mean. And you don't have to flirt ALL the time. Tone it down a bit. And if you can't tell the difference between when you are flirting and when you're not just think b4 you speak and don't say anything to a guy that you wouldnt say to a girl, that's assuming that you are straight.
I'm guessing you're really pretty b/c that's the only time that other girls complain about another girl flirting. When ugly or fat girls flirt everybody thinks it's all fun and games but when pretty girls do it they look easy like a h**. So since you're so pretty and all, why not just stop the flirting all together and let the guys flirt with you. This will make you more enticing to the guys b/c you're not in their face all the time. You know guys like to chase and they like a challange. This will also save you some girlfriends b/c they won't think you're always trying to move in on their crush.
Reply:There's nothing wrong with a little fun flirting. It's human nature, but leading guys to believe that you'd date them when you wouldn't is wrong. And no, it doesn't make you seem like a (insert stupid, vulgar label here).
Reply:its ok to have a swagger about urself. symbolizes that you are a confident person.
Reply:honestly i think guys do like it if there single and unfortunetly some that aren't so do whatever but i don't think other girls are ever gonna like it
Reply:when you talk to the guys, just kindda make it notisiable that u are not interested:)
Reply:guys love to be flirted with ,it makes them feel liked
Reply:Seems like you know the answer to me you know you are. Girls like you annoy me. It's like the i am so fat comment when you are a size three. You basically said you are a flirt yourself save the 5 points next time.
Reply:I think it's honestly about the way one rubs off, and if you're like all jittery, touchy,giggly then yes you may be coming off to them as flirty. You really have to be careful with the way you act around people b/c everyone hasn't different reactions to things and you don't want to make yourself look like that b/c then girls are gonna start to think of you as a slut. So just be careful ok.
Reply:its easy just tell them you ses them as good friends or you can mention that you have a b/f anything like that so they will know that ur taken
Reply:if your single and unattached, flirt while you can, it is part of being young and having fun
Reply:Guys are gonna get tired of you when they realize that you flirt with everyone else. Yea we like to flirt (at least i do) but it makes me mad when i feel like a girl is just usin me to feel good about herself. Just try to tone it down a little bit. Definition of flirting to me is: giggling, physical contact, and just certain looks girls give.
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Cant flirt?
i am really frustrated at myself right now.
i cant seem to FLIRT! Everytime a guy starts flirting with me, i accidentally push him away, because i dont know what to do or say, i just like smile and look down. i really want to flirt back to keep the conversation going, but i keep giving them the wrong message and they back off.
theres a guy i like, and he flirts with me all the time. he recently started backing off because i made him think i dont like him.
help me???? all i need to know is what to do, then i wont be so nervous.
you dont need to tell me confidence is the key, because i know that. but if i had something to be confident about like the skill to flirt, then i will be fine.
help???
Cant flirt?
Its simple.
After he sais something to you.... Wait 3secs before saying anything.
You will seem more mysterious and actually more intelligent. It will also give you a little time to think about what you are going to say.
If you have no idea what to say... Just say the same thing he said to you but as a question. Like you are asking him what he means or what he is saying?
Try it.
GOOD LUCK!
Reply:Are you kidding? Marines know everything!... hahaha. I'm so glad you got what you wanted. I know it seems a funny and quite ridiculous thing to do .. BUT IT WORKS! haha
Keep him interested and hope you find love!
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Reply:Confidence has nothing to do with flirtting. If you like the guy and you feel that he likes you all you have to do is be yourself. Go with the flow,keep your mind on the conversation,answer the questions but just be yourself. If that pushes the guy away from you then he is not the guy for you.
Reply:Just be yourself when you with him.Show him how you really feel gurl.
Reply:just be friendly.. flirting is supposed to be fun.. Just joke around with him... smile alot... just be friendly, happy and make it easy for him to talk to you.. guys back off when they dont get a good responce from girls.. because they think the girls not interested in them...
Reply:I could never flirt either, it's not me. Just tell them you are shy and you are not the flirting kind, but are interested in what they have to say. Maybe smile a little and act interested in what they are saying.
Reply:Flirting is simply an interaction between people with some edgy content, hopes, or connotations,
Try this tell him the truth,
"you know I"m not that good at flirting but I'm trying to with you"
if thats not decent flirting I don't know what is.
I flirt with my wife all the time.
Good Luck and God BLess
Reply:Just be yourself. Tell him that you like him in a nice way. What else could you do than to tell him that you like him?
Reply:Well ok mabey im a guy but when i asked out my girlfriend we were just fliting if he thinks you dont like him dont be a chicken tell him it is hard though!Just try blabing on and on to him about things like places in the world personal information ask his information and animals and vacations and he should have no choice but to listen noing guys wich i am one and i know what thats like when girls act like that i cant stop listening!:) Hop i helped!:)
Reply:Just pretend that you are casually talking to a friend. Talk about the recent test or about what is going on at school( if you are that age.) Just stay calm and remember that he is just a person like your close friend. You can even practice a conversation with your friend. And what ever you do DON'T LOOK DOWN!!!!Always keep looking him straight in the eye. And remember be yourself.GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Reply:ok.. what you should do first is to just like smile at him when he does and look out the corner of your eye.. keep eye contact!!!!! all the time.. that kinda lets them ( or him ) know the your in to him cuz you can't take your eyes off him .. ok lets just say he takes one of you books or something like that.... just luaght and grab for it :).. and if he doesn't give it back..pinch him :)...
Reply:FLIRTING --%26gt;%26gt; is a SKILL.
Like building a website . . . or learning how to play the piano . . . flirting is something you just gotta keep practicing before you really "GET IT".
Flirting is what takes you RIGHT UP TO THE FIRST KISS.
Flirting is an ART.
And sometimes you will FAIL.
And sometimes you will SCORE.
You just gotta keep practicing and taking the shot.
But the MOST IMPORTANT thing to remember is that FLIRTING IS THE ART OF --%26gt; REACTING.
It's about BEING RECEPTIVE to a man's advances, READY FOR IT and able to give it RIGHT BACK in a fast . . . clever . . . humorous way . . . LACED with romantic, sexual "inuendos".
SEX - in itself - is not "sexy".
Only IMPLIED Sex . . . is "sexy".
Like a tennis game, you have to be able to return the ball with "a killer backhand" if you ever expect to REALLY be "good at the game".
And that's ALL flirting is . . . A GAME!
EXAMPLE:
If a guy says . . . "Nice @ss!"
A BAD FLIRT will get mad, pretend to get all "offended" and go off on HOW "RUDE" he is for even thinking she should respond to that sort of crap. POOF. She just killed it.
But a GREAT flirt will be READY TO REACT. . .
She will SMILE and SAY --%26gt; "You BET IT IS!
Thanks for noticing. If you can show me that you are not dumb enough to think a comment like that is a turn-on, then I might let you get a better look at it." (wink and smile)
Then she turns and walks away, laughing her head off.
EXCELLENT.
If you SMILE when you say it,
it doesn't sound like an INSULT.
If you DON'T smile when you say it,
then it means something TOTALLY DIFFERENT.
You follow??
You want to communicate that you can REACT and RETURN any attempt at flirting as if you SAW IT COMING and were READY for it.
If you DON'T . . . it FAILS.
This comes with having the confidence to look him in the eye and "get a verbal rally going" JUST LIKE a tennis game.
The KEY is . . . to BUILD ANTICIPATION.
When flirting . . . ANTICIPATION is EVERYTHING.
When two tennis players rally back and forth . . . tension and excitement builds. When the person who SERVES an ACE doesn't get the ball returned properly, "the game" is a DOWNER.
Watch Harrison Ford and Kate Capshaw in INDIANA JONES (And the Temple of Doom). . . . when he brings an apple to her room.
THAT's flirting.
• James Bond Movies are LOADED with flirting.
• Sam and Diane in the TV show 'Cheers'.
• Brad and Angelina in 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith'.
Study. Watch. And LEARN.
:)
Reply:oooh ok i understand people like you just need to be frank... say "i like you (or) i see yr tryin to flirt with me but i cant flirt so if you wanna go out just ask me"
he'll laugh and yull get dates! if ya cant flirt work with what ya got!
Good luck.
Reply:I'm by no means an expert, but maybe your just putting him on a pedestal, keep the conversation going with him, for example what, when, how, where, and why and maybe he will know that you are interested.
hope this helps
Reply:Try looking up and say that you are shy to the guy. By admiting it I think u 'll see things melting away. And say maybe something about an activity you would like to do
Reply:how about you dress like a hooch and send sexual text messages. youre sure to get the guys that way. i always get laid with this trick
Reply:Just smile and giggle.
i cant seem to FLIRT! Everytime a guy starts flirting with me, i accidentally push him away, because i dont know what to do or say, i just like smile and look down. i really want to flirt back to keep the conversation going, but i keep giving them the wrong message and they back off.
theres a guy i like, and he flirts with me all the time. he recently started backing off because i made him think i dont like him.
help me???? all i need to know is what to do, then i wont be so nervous.
you dont need to tell me confidence is the key, because i know that. but if i had something to be confident about like the skill to flirt, then i will be fine.
help???
Cant flirt?
Its simple.
After he sais something to you.... Wait 3secs before saying anything.
You will seem more mysterious and actually more intelligent. It will also give you a little time to think about what you are going to say.
If you have no idea what to say... Just say the same thing he said to you but as a question. Like you are asking him what he means or what he is saying?
Try it.
GOOD LUCK!
Reply:Are you kidding? Marines know everything!... hahaha. I'm so glad you got what you wanted. I know it seems a funny and quite ridiculous thing to do .. BUT IT WORKS! haha
Keep him interested and hope you find love!
Ray Report It
Reply:Confidence has nothing to do with flirtting. If you like the guy and you feel that he likes you all you have to do is be yourself. Go with the flow,keep your mind on the conversation,answer the questions but just be yourself. If that pushes the guy away from you then he is not the guy for you.
Reply:Just be yourself when you with him.Show him how you really feel gurl.
Reply:just be friendly.. flirting is supposed to be fun.. Just joke around with him... smile alot... just be friendly, happy and make it easy for him to talk to you.. guys back off when they dont get a good responce from girls.. because they think the girls not interested in them...
Reply:I could never flirt either, it's not me. Just tell them you are shy and you are not the flirting kind, but are interested in what they have to say. Maybe smile a little and act interested in what they are saying.
Reply:Flirting is simply an interaction between people with some edgy content, hopes, or connotations,
Try this tell him the truth,
"you know I"m not that good at flirting but I'm trying to with you"
if thats not decent flirting I don't know what is.
I flirt with my wife all the time.
Good Luck and God BLess
Reply:Just be yourself. Tell him that you like him in a nice way. What else could you do than to tell him that you like him?
Reply:Well ok mabey im a guy but when i asked out my girlfriend we were just fliting if he thinks you dont like him dont be a chicken tell him it is hard though!Just try blabing on and on to him about things like places in the world personal information ask his information and animals and vacations and he should have no choice but to listen noing guys wich i am one and i know what thats like when girls act like that i cant stop listening!:) Hop i helped!:)
Reply:Just pretend that you are casually talking to a friend. Talk about the recent test or about what is going on at school( if you are that age.) Just stay calm and remember that he is just a person like your close friend. You can even practice a conversation with your friend. And what ever you do DON'T LOOK DOWN!!!!Always keep looking him straight in the eye. And remember be yourself.GOOD LUCK!!!!!
Reply:ok.. what you should do first is to just like smile at him when he does and look out the corner of your eye.. keep eye contact!!!!! all the time.. that kinda lets them ( or him ) know the your in to him cuz you can't take your eyes off him .. ok lets just say he takes one of you books or something like that.... just luaght and grab for it :).. and if he doesn't give it back..pinch him :)...
Reply:FLIRTING --%26gt;%26gt; is a SKILL.
Like building a website . . . or learning how to play the piano . . . flirting is something you just gotta keep practicing before you really "GET IT".
Flirting is what takes you RIGHT UP TO THE FIRST KISS.
Flirting is an ART.
And sometimes you will FAIL.
And sometimes you will SCORE.
You just gotta keep practicing and taking the shot.
But the MOST IMPORTANT thing to remember is that FLIRTING IS THE ART OF --%26gt; REACTING.
It's about BEING RECEPTIVE to a man's advances, READY FOR IT and able to give it RIGHT BACK in a fast . . . clever . . . humorous way . . . LACED with romantic, sexual "inuendos".
SEX - in itself - is not "sexy".
Only IMPLIED Sex . . . is "sexy".
Like a tennis game, you have to be able to return the ball with "a killer backhand" if you ever expect to REALLY be "good at the game".
And that's ALL flirting is . . . A GAME!
EXAMPLE:
If a guy says . . . "Nice @ss!"
A BAD FLIRT will get mad, pretend to get all "offended" and go off on HOW "RUDE" he is for even thinking she should respond to that sort of crap. POOF. She just killed it.
But a GREAT flirt will be READY TO REACT. . .
She will SMILE and SAY --%26gt; "You BET IT IS!
Thanks for noticing. If you can show me that you are not dumb enough to think a comment like that is a turn-on, then I might let you get a better look at it." (wink and smile)
Then she turns and walks away, laughing her head off.
EXCELLENT.
If you SMILE when you say it,
it doesn't sound like an INSULT.
If you DON'T smile when you say it,
then it means something TOTALLY DIFFERENT.
You follow??
You want to communicate that you can REACT and RETURN any attempt at flirting as if you SAW IT COMING and were READY for it.
If you DON'T . . . it FAILS.
This comes with having the confidence to look him in the eye and "get a verbal rally going" JUST LIKE a tennis game.
The KEY is . . . to BUILD ANTICIPATION.
When flirting . . . ANTICIPATION is EVERYTHING.
When two tennis players rally back and forth . . . tension and excitement builds. When the person who SERVES an ACE doesn't get the ball returned properly, "the game" is a DOWNER.
Watch Harrison Ford and Kate Capshaw in INDIANA JONES (And the Temple of Doom). . . . when he brings an apple to her room.
THAT's flirting.
• James Bond Movies are LOADED with flirting.
• Sam and Diane in the TV show 'Cheers'.
• Brad and Angelina in 'Mr. and Mrs. Smith'.
Study. Watch. And LEARN.
:)
Reply:oooh ok i understand people like you just need to be frank... say "i like you (or) i see yr tryin to flirt with me but i cant flirt so if you wanna go out just ask me"
he'll laugh and yull get dates! if ya cant flirt work with what ya got!
Good luck.
Reply:I'm by no means an expert, but maybe your just putting him on a pedestal, keep the conversation going with him, for example what, when, how, where, and why and maybe he will know that you are interested.
hope this helps
Reply:Try looking up and say that you are shy to the guy. By admiting it I think u 'll see things melting away. And say maybe something about an activity you would like to do
Reply:how about you dress like a hooch and send sexual text messages. youre sure to get the guys that way. i always get laid with this trick
Reply:Just smile and giggle.
Flirt? Fast? Easy? Cheap?
I flirt hella, and that's way too fast for my bf, but I wanna know if i should break up with him or stay with him. The habit of flirting is never gonna stop. I think I should just stay single because I luv to flirt back wen guys flirt with me. So wut should I do??
Flirt? Fast? Easy? Cheap?
you're obviously not the settle down type. So if you're gonna have a boyfriend, you need one that can keep up. It's not fair to you to change who you are for some guy...and you I can tell you won't. So its best you let him go cuz its not fair to him either to have to live with it when he's really not comfortable with it. Sooner or later you'll both get tired of each other, then the breakup is gonna be nasty and that can all be avoided.
Reply:why don't u keep flirting and keep your guy. as long as you're not sleeping with any of them what harm could come from it?
Reply:You be yourself, and if he can't handle it then bye bye!
Reply:tell yur bf that if he dont like u flirtin, then u and him are gonna break up cuz that is who u r and u arent gonna change for a relationship...yet....and that u will slowly stop once u find yur true love who u will marry
Reply:If you're going to remain his girlfriend, then you need to respect him by not flirting with other guys. If you toy with him you're only going to cause trouble for yourself. If you just want to flirt don't cage yourself, go ahead and be flirtatious without a boyfriend, that's how most young people do it anyway.
P.S. if you're older than 25, get a grip
Reply:you should do what ever u want
Reply:You should take a spelling course.
Reply:one day you will meet a guy you dont want to flirt with anyone else!
Reply:Yes you do sound easy and cheap. You should use protection, don't put anything in your mouth and don't swallow. I hope you're at least smart enough to get paid for it.
Reply:You are going to have to get contol of it. You will hurt somebody really badly. I don't mean this offensively, but that's very immature. You don't need to be dating if you aren't going to stop flirting other others and be with him. I would say you are probably not ready to be dating. You should stay single until you are.
Reply:grow up and be matured lady.
Reply:Flirting is human nature, almost everybody does it, some are just more discreet about it. Flirting is harmless, find a man that doesn't mind. My husband and I flirt with people all the time. When someone flirts with you it makes you feel good about yourself, then you go home to your man.
Reply:just keep on flirtin...
cause flirtin anint hurtin....
Reply:If thats what make you happy, stay single. Don't do something you're not happy with - if you wanna flirt, go out there and flirt!
Reply:you just answered your own question.
Reply:whats your definition of flirting? do you touch or do you just wink eyes or things like that. if your boyfriend don't like it you would have to try and not do it while hes there or at all, what if he just like kissing girls would you like that. hey a relationship involves 2 people don't think about only the things you like, you have to think of his feelings as well.
Flirt? Fast? Easy? Cheap?
you're obviously not the settle down type. So if you're gonna have a boyfriend, you need one that can keep up. It's not fair to you to change who you are for some guy...and you I can tell you won't. So its best you let him go cuz its not fair to him either to have to live with it when he's really not comfortable with it. Sooner or later you'll both get tired of each other, then the breakup is gonna be nasty and that can all be avoided.
Reply:why don't u keep flirting and keep your guy. as long as you're not sleeping with any of them what harm could come from it?
Reply:You be yourself, and if he can't handle it then bye bye!
Reply:tell yur bf that if he dont like u flirtin, then u and him are gonna break up cuz that is who u r and u arent gonna change for a relationship...yet....and that u will slowly stop once u find yur true love who u will marry
Reply:If you're going to remain his girlfriend, then you need to respect him by not flirting with other guys. If you toy with him you're only going to cause trouble for yourself. If you just want to flirt don't cage yourself, go ahead and be flirtatious without a boyfriend, that's how most young people do it anyway.
P.S. if you're older than 25, get a grip
Reply:you should do what ever u want
Reply:You should take a spelling course.
Reply:one day you will meet a guy you dont want to flirt with anyone else!
Reply:Yes you do sound easy and cheap. You should use protection, don't put anything in your mouth and don't swallow. I hope you're at least smart enough to get paid for it.
Reply:You are going to have to get contol of it. You will hurt somebody really badly. I don't mean this offensively, but that's very immature. You don't need to be dating if you aren't going to stop flirting other others and be with him. I would say you are probably not ready to be dating. You should stay single until you are.
Reply:grow up and be matured lady.
Reply:Flirting is human nature, almost everybody does it, some are just more discreet about it. Flirting is harmless, find a man that doesn't mind. My husband and I flirt with people all the time. When someone flirts with you it makes you feel good about yourself, then you go home to your man.
Reply:just keep on flirtin...
cause flirtin anint hurtin....
Reply:If thats what make you happy, stay single. Don't do something you're not happy with - if you wanna flirt, go out there and flirt!
Reply:you just answered your own question.
Reply:whats your definition of flirting? do you touch or do you just wink eyes or things like that. if your boyfriend don't like it you would have to try and not do it while hes there or at all, what if he just like kissing girls would you like that. hey a relationship involves 2 people don't think about only the things you like, you have to think of his feelings as well.
****Flirting*** What are the reason why guys flirt??
Hey there!!!
I know its kind of a weird %26amp; stupid question to even ask, but i am just curious on how guys think and why. I know that they flirt to females because they find they attractive or cute, but dose that means they also would want to get to know the females they flirt with or they just want to mess with the females head????....
Just curious, because i know someone and she likes her guy friend and everything we go out i notice that they are always flirting with eachother and i know that they both like eachother more than friends n yet the guy is not stepping up...i know you think that he or she dont want to ruin the friendship, but its not even like that. They' ve only known eachother for one month and they dont really talk on the phone or hang out...only if i call them up and we go out..
So, this is all so very weird to me and i just cant find what is the problem here.. Please shine some light...
ThankX
****Flirting*** What are the reason why guys flirt??
Some people flirt because they are interested, some do because it is an ego boost. Since they don't hang out or talk with each other outside of your group, I would say that it is one of two reasons. They think each other are cute and enjoy the positive attention, because it validates their attractiveness, or, they are both shy and don't know how to make a move.
Why don't you just tell your friend that their attration to one another it is obvious and ask her why she doesn't ask him out?
Reply:The worst case is when you are doing it just to make yourself feel better...
It is acceptable to flirt with a person that you like or genuinely interested in (after some time of knowing her/him). Report It
Reply:the guy might not even like the girls, it happens just flirt for nothing... its kinda umm well i dont know but i dont like it Report It
Reply:It is in our sexual nature to flirt it makes us feel good inside that we are getting attention girls like flirting because they are basically the same way they like attention
Reply:Some guys just like leading girls on.
Reply:He flirts if he likes her or wants to get to know her. Plain simple fact
Reply:i think that girls firt to get attention from a guy by flirting and that is how u know that a girl likes you...??
Reply:same as us girls flirt wit boyz
Reply:Same reason girls flirt.
Reply:flirt is super and to get the girls a ttention I LOVE IT when a guy flirt with me!
Reply:If your mission is to get those to together, why not call up the guy and ask him what the deal is? Maybe he's only flirting for fun and doesn't want to be involved. Or maybe he's too shy to pursue it further. If you help him over his obstacle, he may move forward. Does the girl he's flirting with want more? She could be a little forward too ya know. And by the way...why are you all up in it?
I know its kind of a weird %26amp; stupid question to even ask, but i am just curious on how guys think and why. I know that they flirt to females because they find they attractive or cute, but dose that means they also would want to get to know the females they flirt with or they just want to mess with the females head????....
Just curious, because i know someone and she likes her guy friend and everything we go out i notice that they are always flirting with eachother and i know that they both like eachother more than friends n yet the guy is not stepping up...i know you think that he or she dont want to ruin the friendship, but its not even like that. They' ve only known eachother for one month and they dont really talk on the phone or hang out...only if i call them up and we go out..
So, this is all so very weird to me and i just cant find what is the problem here.. Please shine some light...
ThankX
****Flirting*** What are the reason why guys flirt??
Some people flirt because they are interested, some do because it is an ego boost. Since they don't hang out or talk with each other outside of your group, I would say that it is one of two reasons. They think each other are cute and enjoy the positive attention, because it validates their attractiveness, or, they are both shy and don't know how to make a move.
Why don't you just tell your friend that their attration to one another it is obvious and ask her why she doesn't ask him out?
Reply:The worst case is when you are doing it just to make yourself feel better...
It is acceptable to flirt with a person that you like or genuinely interested in (after some time of knowing her/him). Report It
Reply:the guy might not even like the girls, it happens just flirt for nothing... its kinda umm well i dont know but i dont like it Report It
Reply:It is in our sexual nature to flirt it makes us feel good inside that we are getting attention girls like flirting because they are basically the same way they like attention
Reply:Some guys just like leading girls on.
Reply:He flirts if he likes her or wants to get to know her. Plain simple fact
Reply:i think that girls firt to get attention from a guy by flirting and that is how u know that a girl likes you...??
Reply:same as us girls flirt wit boyz
Reply:Same reason girls flirt.
Reply:flirt is super and to get the girls a ttention I LOVE IT when a guy flirt with me!
Reply:If your mission is to get those to together, why not call up the guy and ask him what the deal is? Maybe he's only flirting for fun and doesn't want to be involved. Or maybe he's too shy to pursue it further. If you help him over his obstacle, he may move forward. Does the girl he's flirting with want more? She could be a little forward too ya know. And by the way...why are you all up in it?
Flirting!!! What's the best way to flirt with a guy? Guys and girls answers!!!?
What's the best things to do to flirt with a guy? I know him well and he hasn't got a girlfriend. He's a friend but i really like him. He's really nice to me and we mess about etc but nothing physical, just like mates. What can i do to flirt with him that will get him to realize my feelings, nothing too extreme!! Maybe one day i'll try and tell him but till then i wanna know how the flirting may work. Guy's too, i mean what could i do that would make you think i was interested in you? Thanks!!
Flirting!!! What's the best way to flirt with a guy? Guys and girls answers!!!?
When you're sat with him the next time and chattin just look at him in the eyes for a moment longer than normal and look away with a smile on your face and that'll make him think about why u did that ;)
Reply:smile, laugh, eye contact is a big 1 and uhhhhhmmmm oh yea when ur leaving make sure u say bye nd smile nd hug him u knoo girl stuff lol make yourself memorable Report It
Reply:He's a guy. As soon as you flirt with him, he is automatically wanting you. It's easy for girls. Walk up to him at tell him he has nice eyes or something. Trust me, you won't be able to get rid of him after that.
Reply:Flirting is a natural thing, it just happens.
Reply:joke with him, move close to him, compliment him, touch him, most of all be your self.
Reply:heck thats easy, it's obvious you like him so just give it to him. you know what i mean, guy love the pussy so just screw his brains out until he can't walk straight the next morning. i can tell you from experence that the best way to a guys heart beside his stomach is you little snatch hole. use that thing for the very reason god gave it to you, find your man and please him.
Reply:HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE 2 SAY THIS
WE GIRLS DO NOT FLIRT!!!
THAT WOULD MAKE US LOOK CHEAP AND EASY
THATS THE GUYS JOB!!UFFF
shark teeth
Flirting!!! What's the best way to flirt with a guy? Guys and girls answers!!!?
When you're sat with him the next time and chattin just look at him in the eyes for a moment longer than normal and look away with a smile on your face and that'll make him think about why u did that ;)
Reply:smile, laugh, eye contact is a big 1 and uhhhhhmmmm oh yea when ur leaving make sure u say bye nd smile nd hug him u knoo girl stuff lol make yourself memorable Report It
Reply:He's a guy. As soon as you flirt with him, he is automatically wanting you. It's easy for girls. Walk up to him at tell him he has nice eyes or something. Trust me, you won't be able to get rid of him after that.
Reply:Flirting is a natural thing, it just happens.
Reply:joke with him, move close to him, compliment him, touch him, most of all be your self.
Reply:heck thats easy, it's obvious you like him so just give it to him. you know what i mean, guy love the pussy so just screw his brains out until he can't walk straight the next morning. i can tell you from experence that the best way to a guys heart beside his stomach is you little snatch hole. use that thing for the very reason god gave it to you, find your man and please him.
Reply:HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE 2 SAY THIS
WE GIRLS DO NOT FLIRT!!!
THAT WOULD MAKE US LOOK CHEAP AND EASY
THATS THE GUYS JOB!!UFFF
shark teeth
How can i not flirt with guys when im with someone else?
me im a big flirt like i cant be with one guy and flirt one guy i have to flirt with many. n for some reason in realtionships after i miss the kissing and soemtimes the hanging out but mostly the kissing. idk whats wrong with me that i cant really be happy with flirting with one guy. its hard for me how can i mimprove in that? i do like guys for thier personalities but i have not met any missing worthy guys of personalities. n the one guy i wanted to stay with verbally abuses me annd hes the one guy i actially didnt want to flirt with any other guys. how can i not flirt ina relationship? but thats also part of my personality i ahve flirty one so people think im flirting but im not... sometimes.
How can i not flirt with guys when im with someone else?
when you find the right person thats when!!! You obviosuly havent found the right guy for you!!!!!
Reply:you cant NOT flirt with guys.
no matter how much you try, you will flirt with guys.
%26amp;%26amp;+ he'll flirt with girls.
How can i not flirt with guys when im with someone else?
when you find the right person thats when!!! You obviosuly havent found the right guy for you!!!!!
Reply:you cant NOT flirt with guys.
no matter how much you try, you will flirt with guys.
%26amp;%26amp;+ he'll flirt with girls.
I FLIRT WITH GUYS IN ORDER TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF ???
i'm a flirt.....i love to flirt with guys....most of the time, guys do get the wrong impression that i like them, when i don't....if i flirt with someone, that doesn't mean that i like them....anyways, so when i flirt with guys at work, they end up falling for me....and they end up liking me, and wanna go out with me....but that's not my intention....
i know i'm weird and feel very guilty for doing this....
i flirt with the guys, and when they want me.....then i'm not interested in them anymore....i don't know why i behave this way, i don't try to....it just kinda happens....
i feel like this has something to do with my ex-boyfriend, since i still haven't moved on.....
I FLIRT WITH GUYS IN ORDER TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF ???
Flirt with me!!! I will make you FEEL SO GOOD, you will fall in love with me!!!
Reply:you are obviously young (uder 18 i think) you should talk with your Mom, a school counselor, or someone (professional) that can help you help yourself! Good luck.
Reply:Well, if your ex was the one to call it quits, the rejection you experienced called into question your desirability to him, and men in general. So, you're needing validation of your desirability from men, and when they give it to you, you get scared of any potential involvement, and reject them before they have a chance to reject you.
Reply:Stop.
Reply:stop doing it
Reply:you just asked about this like an hour ago..sheez.oi..talk to a therapist, they'll find your underlying causes of self-esteem issues.
Reply:ya i know what your talking about? men at first just want in. do what makes you feel good. be confident, men are putting themselves in the postion to be sucked in. the one man that does fall for the act of flirty girl. that will be the man all want. and he probably treat you bad and youll like him the most. that life. if it didnt work this way it would be borring!
Reply:I do the same for the same purpose. You'll be fine when you can forget about ur ex boyfriend. it's always so tough to overcome the ex-relationships.. good luck.
Reply:keep flirting with guys
are you sexy? hope we could meet in a dinner
Reply:haha i do this too! what's wrong with it? let them fall for you and then simply tell them they got you wrong. it's fun lol
Reply:Just a bit of advice, stop what you're doing. One of the guys you work with might not be so nice and try to push you too far. I know it's great to get a lot of attention from guys, but one thing is sure, you're sending them a signal which says you're available then you don't follow through. That's a lot for any person of any age to swallow. Stop playing with these guys and start respecting yourself.
Reply:why do you do it? I don't know that's obviously only a question you can answer.
i know i'm weird and feel very guilty for doing this....
i flirt with the guys, and when they want me.....then i'm not interested in them anymore....i don't know why i behave this way, i don't try to....it just kinda happens....
i feel like this has something to do with my ex-boyfriend, since i still haven't moved on.....
I FLIRT WITH GUYS IN ORDER TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT MYSELF ???
Flirt with me!!! I will make you FEEL SO GOOD, you will fall in love with me!!!
Reply:you are obviously young (uder 18 i think) you should talk with your Mom, a school counselor, or someone (professional) that can help you help yourself! Good luck.
Reply:Well, if your ex was the one to call it quits, the rejection you experienced called into question your desirability to him, and men in general. So, you're needing validation of your desirability from men, and when they give it to you, you get scared of any potential involvement, and reject them before they have a chance to reject you.
Reply:Stop.
Reply:stop doing it
Reply:you just asked about this like an hour ago..sheez.oi..talk to a therapist, they'll find your underlying causes of self-esteem issues.
Reply:ya i know what your talking about? men at first just want in. do what makes you feel good. be confident, men are putting themselves in the postion to be sucked in. the one man that does fall for the act of flirty girl. that will be the man all want. and he probably treat you bad and youll like him the most. that life. if it didnt work this way it would be borring!
Reply:I do the same for the same purpose. You'll be fine when you can forget about ur ex boyfriend. it's always so tough to overcome the ex-relationships.. good luck.
Reply:keep flirting with guys
are you sexy? hope we could meet in a dinner
Reply:haha i do this too! what's wrong with it? let them fall for you and then simply tell them they got you wrong. it's fun lol
Reply:Just a bit of advice, stop what you're doing. One of the guys you work with might not be so nice and try to push you too far. I know it's great to get a lot of attention from guys, but one thing is sure, you're sending them a signal which says you're available then you don't follow through. That's a lot for any person of any age to swallow. Stop playing with these guys and start respecting yourself.
Reply:why do you do it? I don't know that's obviously only a question you can answer.
Imma flirt?
okay so i flirt a lot. i mean constantly. i flirt so much that i dont even realize that im doing it. people are starting too get mad at me because no one can ever tell if i like them or if im just flirting around. today this kid asked me out and i said no, and he was like i thought u liked me and he said i was doing things that led him too think that (oops) a lot of boys dont want to go out with me because they hate the fact that id be flirting the whole time. so should i cut the flirting down? if soo how?
Imma flirt?
idk just try to stop looking so much at boys kk
Reply:Act like you would act around your mama. Cause you wouldn't act all flirty around your mama.
Imma flirt?
idk just try to stop looking so much at boys kk
Reply:Act like you would act around your mama. Cause you wouldn't act all flirty around your mama.
Flirt alert?
how do i know if a guy is flirting with me and how do i know if im flirting backk..especially whne u have a veryvery jeoulus bf?
cuz i dont relallize when guys flirt with me but then i feel bad, and stuff. but like idk is wearing another guys sweatshirt (another guy that happnes to be ur ex bf)is that badd, or hugging other guyss, or kissing best guy friends on the checks...lol or maybe flirting sometimes obviusly...hehehe..
so any adivice
Flirt alert?
wearing another guys sweatshirt.. yeah.. maybe. unless you were all chilling at his place or something.. like there was a good reason. hugging? nah.. i do that with all my guy friends. kissing.. yes.. not a good idea.. thats flirting.. major.
if you think you might be flirting, or doing something wrong.. trust me.. you are.
get out of that situation quick, before your boyfriend breaks up with you
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cuz i dont relallize when guys flirt with me but then i feel bad, and stuff. but like idk is wearing another guys sweatshirt (another guy that happnes to be ur ex bf)is that badd, or hugging other guyss, or kissing best guy friends on the checks...lol or maybe flirting sometimes obviusly...hehehe..
so any adivice
Flirt alert?
wearing another guys sweatshirt.. yeah.. maybe. unless you were all chilling at his place or something.. like there was a good reason. hugging? nah.. i do that with all my guy friends. kissing.. yes.. not a good idea.. thats flirting.. major.
if you think you might be flirting, or doing something wrong.. trust me.. you are.
get out of that situation quick, before your boyfriend breaks up with you
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My gf loves it when guys flirt with her...?
Hello,
Me and my gf are both 30. She has this habit of enjoying men flirting with her and she never stops them. She sometimes flirts back.
OK, I don't have problems with it IF ONLY I get the same rights. If a girl flirts with me and I laugh or smile, my gf accuses me of flirting and gets all hurt. But when she is doing something similar (smiling at guys flirting with her), it is supposed to be friendly. She says she does not want to come across as rude to those guys. Then, why do I become the bad guy if I am smiling at women flirting with me?
I know my gf loves me and I love her. But, why aren't the same standards applicable to me? Honestly, I don't want to flirt with any other woman apart from her. I am NOT looking for an excuse to flirt. I just want to know why the double standards and how I can get my gf to stop. We even had a talk at times but she forgets all that after a month or so and it's back to her enjoying the flirting.
My gf loves it when guys flirt with her...?
The only way to stop her is for her to see you flirting, tell her that you will stop when she does. Show her who the Man is...
Reply:cause she need to know from others that she's still good, where i guess she thinks that as a guy, you don't need to be told these things by strangers, rather that this filrting may lead to sex, (because the woman filrting always controls where things go).
Reply:dear buddy
looks like u really love her
but then i feel itz hi time u 4get her
there r many gud gals in the world
true
Reply:I've heard from a very reliable source that your gf isn't very mature and that i'm a jacka**
Reply:That isnt good, Double standards isnt fair. Its good that you've had talks with her so it shows you're concerned. Now, In my opinion the age of 30 is a time when folks should settle down from they screw up ways from their younger years.
You have to ask yourself (because the Double Standard Bothers you) is this the person you want to be with?
Reply:Ok.. It's simple
She loves you, you love her.. This shouldn't affect you that much. Can't you see that, if she knows you love her, maybe your opinion about her look is just not enough.. Love is blind did you know? And she probably needs the flirting to feel that she's steel attractive to the opposite sex. No second intentions ..
Or, she might just like that ur jealous of her.. It means you really like her!
But, u know.. Well.. Guys have the fame of being a little less innocent, right? So when u flirt with a girl ur girlfriend get's jeaulous..
I'm not saying it's fair.. Hey, the world's unfair, big news! But I do get it..
Don't make a big deal out of it.. Tell her everyday she's awesome... Eventually it will go away! U love each other.. U'll work it out..
Good Luck dude
Reply:Time to get a new girlfriend
Reply:being a women and knowing that I am right just agree and let her flirt it is prob her way of being friendly not sleazy but never admit you are flirting save the greif
ps women are elephants never forget
Reply:it's really unfair to act that way. she needs to know that it is making you very uncomfortable. no one HAS to flirt, she is not required to flirt back if a guy is doing it to her. how she comes off to other guys is not as important--or at all important--as to how she comes off towards you. flirting can be done with other people without hurting your significant other. she doesn't have to talk to other men that try to talk to her, she can simply smile and say "sorry i'm with my boyfriend". no harm done and everyone still has their dignity.
Reply:Girls by nature love to be noticed and feel they are attracting, as far as she loves you and she is faithful, i advise you not to take time to bother youself with this idea and try to talk to her kindly telling her that that hurts your feelings and if she really love you she would slow down.
On the other hand she might be teasing you to feel your hot love because some girls sense that through jealousy
Reply:I don't think it's got anything to do with maturity as i think ts more to do with her self esteem. She may be feeling old and unattractive so she over reacts when someone flirts with her. To be honest no matter what my age is i would never flirt with another man in front of my boyfriend it is very disrespectful, for that matter i don't flirt when he aint there! A bit of banter is ok because we all like to feel attractivebut in front of our boyfriends... i think not!!! If you have made it clear that it is not to your liking and by clear i mean a proper talk about how it makes you FEEL not how much it makes you angry and pissed off then this is not on. A word of advice if you don't like her flirting then you shouldn't do it either as this just gives her an excuse even though she started in the first place. In a marriage/ relationship there will always be something that will bug you bout the other person the question is does it bug you enough to leave over if it doesn't stop?? Good Luck.
Reply:She can't stop other men from flirting with her, and I'm sure it does make her feel good- would for many. She can, however, stop herself from flirting back, and she's not. You've already made it clear you don't like this, that it's hurting you, and she's not respecting that. She's not really respecting YOU, now, is she? And my question to you is- Is she worth that?
I wouldn't put up with that very long from a partner... no one should, so don't put up with it, either.
Reply:Emotionally immature.You got to see her past,so talk to her.
Reply:this is a big time trust issue i think. theres nothing wrong with flirting as long as thats all it is. its a really big confidence booster. As far as her being jealous when you do it?? uncalled for, definitly. I think the two of you need to sit down ant talk about his and you need to let her know exactley how you feel and you need to try to make her understand that when you flirt..thats all it is and that she is the one you love and remind her that you are the one you leave with at the end of the night and no one else. If its causing a rift in the relationship maybe suggest that you both tone it down a little. Have you guys tried flirting with each other when out in public? Soetimes thats a great way to remind yourselves why you are together and hey...its fun!!!
Good luck, hope this helped
Reply:All g/f like the attention of another guy, it makes them feel like there still prtty, maybe you should compliment her a lot more!
Reply:keep a journal of how often she does it or record her doing it.sometimes that helps the person see there own actions.Most times people cant see there own negative actions in them-self but are quick to condemn others of the same actions they just did.Some time making them face it shows that they cant be the pot calling the kettle black...
Reply:May be she is looking for a gang bank and enjoys it.
Reply:It just makes her fgeel better about herself which is sad. You wouls think at 30 she would be more mature. Move on Buddy!
Reply:hahaha... it is the double standards of a woman...
she is 30, feeling old and needs reassurance she is still sexy...
so she enjoys the attentions of strangers... it gives her a little thrill and gets her turned on...
BUT as a guy, you are NOT allowed to do the same to other women, cos that is disrespectful to her and she get jealous and angry...
WELCOME TO RELATIONSHIP HELL!!! :D
Reply:sorry but she's being disrespectful. if you gawped at every women she'd hate it, so explain this to her nd ask her to stop.
Reply:Tricky. She obviously enjoys it. You are not comfortable with this and she should try and understand where you are coming from. Insecurity maybe.
At thirty most women are in their prime so if you make this an issue it might backfire. I think you need to set some ground rules. Tit for tat.
The basis of any good relationship is trust.
If you trust her not to let this get out of hand then just let her go and see what happens.
Think you have a viable argument and good on you for recognising this potential problem. Good luck
Reply:You also enjoy flirting
Reply:She just likes the attention, she needs to know that she's still desirable and wanted by men. Nothing is meant by it, it's a girl thing.
Reply:It is because the reasons that men flirt and women flirt are very different.
Me and my gf are both 30. She has this habit of enjoying men flirting with her and she never stops them. She sometimes flirts back.
OK, I don't have problems with it IF ONLY I get the same rights. If a girl flirts with me and I laugh or smile, my gf accuses me of flirting and gets all hurt. But when she is doing something similar (smiling at guys flirting with her), it is supposed to be friendly. She says she does not want to come across as rude to those guys. Then, why do I become the bad guy if I am smiling at women flirting with me?
I know my gf loves me and I love her. But, why aren't the same standards applicable to me? Honestly, I don't want to flirt with any other woman apart from her. I am NOT looking for an excuse to flirt. I just want to know why the double standards and how I can get my gf to stop. We even had a talk at times but she forgets all that after a month or so and it's back to her enjoying the flirting.
My gf loves it when guys flirt with her...?
The only way to stop her is for her to see you flirting, tell her that you will stop when she does. Show her who the Man is...
Reply:cause she need to know from others that she's still good, where i guess she thinks that as a guy, you don't need to be told these things by strangers, rather that this filrting may lead to sex, (because the woman filrting always controls where things go).
Reply:dear buddy
looks like u really love her
but then i feel itz hi time u 4get her
there r many gud gals in the world
true
Reply:I've heard from a very reliable source that your gf isn't very mature and that i'm a jacka**
Reply:That isnt good, Double standards isnt fair. Its good that you've had talks with her so it shows you're concerned. Now, In my opinion the age of 30 is a time when folks should settle down from they screw up ways from their younger years.
You have to ask yourself (because the Double Standard Bothers you) is this the person you want to be with?
Reply:Ok.. It's simple
She loves you, you love her.. This shouldn't affect you that much. Can't you see that, if she knows you love her, maybe your opinion about her look is just not enough.. Love is blind did you know? And she probably needs the flirting to feel that she's steel attractive to the opposite sex. No second intentions ..
Or, she might just like that ur jealous of her.. It means you really like her!
But, u know.. Well.. Guys have the fame of being a little less innocent, right? So when u flirt with a girl ur girlfriend get's jeaulous..
I'm not saying it's fair.. Hey, the world's unfair, big news! But I do get it..
Don't make a big deal out of it.. Tell her everyday she's awesome... Eventually it will go away! U love each other.. U'll work it out..
Good Luck dude
Reply:Time to get a new girlfriend
Reply:being a women and knowing that I am right just agree and let her flirt it is prob her way of being friendly not sleazy but never admit you are flirting save the greif
ps women are elephants never forget
Reply:it's really unfair to act that way. she needs to know that it is making you very uncomfortable. no one HAS to flirt, she is not required to flirt back if a guy is doing it to her. how she comes off to other guys is not as important--or at all important--as to how she comes off towards you. flirting can be done with other people without hurting your significant other. she doesn't have to talk to other men that try to talk to her, she can simply smile and say "sorry i'm with my boyfriend". no harm done and everyone still has their dignity.
Reply:Girls by nature love to be noticed and feel they are attracting, as far as she loves you and she is faithful, i advise you not to take time to bother youself with this idea and try to talk to her kindly telling her that that hurts your feelings and if she really love you she would slow down.
On the other hand she might be teasing you to feel your hot love because some girls sense that through jealousy
Reply:I don't think it's got anything to do with maturity as i think ts more to do with her self esteem. She may be feeling old and unattractive so she over reacts when someone flirts with her. To be honest no matter what my age is i would never flirt with another man in front of my boyfriend it is very disrespectful, for that matter i don't flirt when he aint there! A bit of banter is ok because we all like to feel attractivebut in front of our boyfriends... i think not!!! If you have made it clear that it is not to your liking and by clear i mean a proper talk about how it makes you FEEL not how much it makes you angry and pissed off then this is not on. A word of advice if you don't like her flirting then you shouldn't do it either as this just gives her an excuse even though she started in the first place. In a marriage/ relationship there will always be something that will bug you bout the other person the question is does it bug you enough to leave over if it doesn't stop?? Good Luck.
Reply:She can't stop other men from flirting with her, and I'm sure it does make her feel good- would for many. She can, however, stop herself from flirting back, and she's not. You've already made it clear you don't like this, that it's hurting you, and she's not respecting that. She's not really respecting YOU, now, is she? And my question to you is- Is she worth that?
I wouldn't put up with that very long from a partner... no one should, so don't put up with it, either.
Reply:Emotionally immature.You got to see her past,so talk to her.
Reply:this is a big time trust issue i think. theres nothing wrong with flirting as long as thats all it is. its a really big confidence booster. As far as her being jealous when you do it?? uncalled for, definitly. I think the two of you need to sit down ant talk about his and you need to let her know exactley how you feel and you need to try to make her understand that when you flirt..thats all it is and that she is the one you love and remind her that you are the one you leave with at the end of the night and no one else. If its causing a rift in the relationship maybe suggest that you both tone it down a little. Have you guys tried flirting with each other when out in public? Soetimes thats a great way to remind yourselves why you are together and hey...its fun!!!
Good luck, hope this helped
Reply:All g/f like the attention of another guy, it makes them feel like there still prtty, maybe you should compliment her a lot more!
Reply:keep a journal of how often she does it or record her doing it.sometimes that helps the person see there own actions.Most times people cant see there own negative actions in them-self but are quick to condemn others of the same actions they just did.Some time making them face it shows that they cant be the pot calling the kettle black...
Reply:May be she is looking for a gang bank and enjoys it.
Reply:It just makes her fgeel better about herself which is sad. You wouls think at 30 she would be more mature. Move on Buddy!
Reply:hahaha... it is the double standards of a woman...
she is 30, feeling old and needs reassurance she is still sexy...
so she enjoys the attentions of strangers... it gives her a little thrill and gets her turned on...
BUT as a guy, you are NOT allowed to do the same to other women, cos that is disrespectful to her and she get jealous and angry...
WELCOME TO RELATIONSHIP HELL!!! :D
Reply:sorry but she's being disrespectful. if you gawped at every women she'd hate it, so explain this to her nd ask her to stop.
Reply:Tricky. She obviously enjoys it. You are not comfortable with this and she should try and understand where you are coming from. Insecurity maybe.
At thirty most women are in their prime so if you make this an issue it might backfire. I think you need to set some ground rules. Tit for tat.
The basis of any good relationship is trust.
If you trust her not to let this get out of hand then just let her go and see what happens.
Think you have a viable argument and good on you for recognising this potential problem. Good luck
Reply:You also enjoy flirting
Reply:She just likes the attention, she needs to know that she's still desirable and wanted by men. Nothing is meant by it, it's a girl thing.
Reply:It is because the reasons that men flirt and women flirt are very different.
How to flirt?
i am bad at flirting. well i think i am. i dont know. but when i flirt im normally mean. like he'l lsay something and i'll come back with an insult or something. like you know what i mean? but i laugh or i smile while i say it. so its like a joke. like if i see him i'd be like hey ugly, or hey person i dont like or something like that and hed smile and say hi back. liek he knows im joking. but i dont think guys get it that thats how i flirt.
so im basically asking..
1. do they know thats how i flirt?
2. how do i flirt better without making it totally obvious i like him and without being so mean?
3. what do you guys like that girls do when they flirt?
How to flirt?
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F- is for flatter. The fastest way to a persons heart is by complimenting them. Find something you really like about that person, there hair, the way they act ect. and compliment them on it. make sure you find multiple things you like and compliment away. don't use stupid compliments like oh your eyes are pretty when there really not. make it sincere.
L- is for listen. People love when you listen to them, it shows that you are really interested in that person and really care what they are talking about. Besides the biggest aphrodisiac is listning.
I- is for interests. Find things you have in commen with that person, don't find to many it will just freak them out and make it like your stalking them just find a couple of things in commen. like what kinds of music you like, movies, ect.
R- is for responible. Don't lie, don't send mixed messages, be straight up. Guys are completly confused about girls so don't try and confuse them more than what they already lie. Don't choose inapropriate flirting partners such as your friends boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't make it where flirting will hurt anyone.
T- is for trusting yourself. Trust yourself, be confident, bold, and daring. Trust yourself that you will come out knowing that even if you didn't get the guy/girl that you wanted you can always be nice and friendly to that person.
S- is for smile. BODY LANGUAGE,BODY LANGUAGE,AND BODY LANGUAGE, can i stress it anymore? Smile, it will show the person that you are friendly and nice. If you smile, you might get one back =D.
Reply:Tell him how great the shirt he's wearing is or his jeans or whatever, just make it positive instead of negative. Say something about his hair or sparkling eyes! Or Hey Handsome! They love that! But they do like being complimented on their clothes. I tell men I don't know, "Damn you look good!" They eat it up!!! And I'm not the best looking woman around. Do they care??? Hell no!!! It just makes their day, just like it would yours. Tell them they look really good in that color. Practice on people you don't know. You'll see how it brightens their day. They will will sort of puff up. Next time you get in an elevator with someone, try it.
Reply:girl I'l teache you how to flirt
so im basically asking..
1. do they know thats how i flirt?
2. how do i flirt better without making it totally obvious i like him and without being so mean?
3. what do you guys like that girls do when they flirt?
How to flirt?
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F- is for flatter. The fastest way to a persons heart is by complimenting them. Find something you really like about that person, there hair, the way they act ect. and compliment them on it. make sure you find multiple things you like and compliment away. don't use stupid compliments like oh your eyes are pretty when there really not. make it sincere.
L- is for listen. People love when you listen to them, it shows that you are really interested in that person and really care what they are talking about. Besides the biggest aphrodisiac is listning.
I- is for interests. Find things you have in commen with that person, don't find to many it will just freak them out and make it like your stalking them just find a couple of things in commen. like what kinds of music you like, movies, ect.
R- is for responible. Don't lie, don't send mixed messages, be straight up. Guys are completly confused about girls so don't try and confuse them more than what they already lie. Don't choose inapropriate flirting partners such as your friends boyfriend/girlfriend. Don't make it where flirting will hurt anyone.
T- is for trusting yourself. Trust yourself, be confident, bold, and daring. Trust yourself that you will come out knowing that even if you didn't get the guy/girl that you wanted you can always be nice and friendly to that person.
S- is for smile. BODY LANGUAGE,BODY LANGUAGE,AND BODY LANGUAGE, can i stress it anymore? Smile, it will show the person that you are friendly and nice. If you smile, you might get one back =D.
Reply:Tell him how great the shirt he's wearing is or his jeans or whatever, just make it positive instead of negative. Say something about his hair or sparkling eyes! Or Hey Handsome! They love that! But they do like being complimented on their clothes. I tell men I don't know, "Damn you look good!" They eat it up!!! And I'm not the best looking woman around. Do they care??? Hell no!!! It just makes their day, just like it would yours. Tell them they look really good in that color. Practice on people you don't know. You'll see how it brightens their day. They will will sort of puff up. Next time you get in an elevator with someone, try it.
Reply:girl I'l teache you how to flirt
How to flirt with a girl you like?
How to flirt with a girl you like?
hey i have liked a certain girl in my class for about a year now. i want her to think of me more than just a friend, so i just started being nice to her and smiling and doing things for her. my friend said that i need to flirt with her if i ever wanted to get anywhere farther in a relationship with her. so i took my friends advice and tried to flirt( witch was really stupid of me because i do not have any idea how to flirt)
so if anyone could teach me how to flirt that would be awesome.
Or if anyone has been flirted with could you tell me what works and what dosent.
thanks for the help.
How to flirt with a girl you like?
Try to compliment her as often as you can.Some fooling around,skylarking and innocent touching is fine.just do anything to get her attention
Reply:smile a lot it catches the girls attention.When you look at her try to catch eyes and smile.Compliment her(not on every little thing)and make it something special not something stupid like for example: your eyes are pretty it doesn't work.They're not hard to do and they are not too much. Report It
Reply:touch his arm, giggle, laugh at ALL of his jokes, smile, flutter your eyelashes, seem interested, ask him questions about himself, give him your number.
hey i have liked a certain girl in my class for about a year now. i want her to think of me more than just a friend, so i just started being nice to her and smiling and doing things for her. my friend said that i need to flirt with her if i ever wanted to get anywhere farther in a relationship with her. so i took my friends advice and tried to flirt( witch was really stupid of me because i do not have any idea how to flirt)
so if anyone could teach me how to flirt that would be awesome.
Or if anyone has been flirted with could you tell me what works and what dosent.
thanks for the help.
How to flirt with a girl you like?
Try to compliment her as often as you can.Some fooling around,skylarking and innocent touching is fine.just do anything to get her attention
Reply:smile a lot it catches the girls attention.When you look at her try to catch eyes and smile.Compliment her(not on every little thing)and make it something special not something stupid like for example: your eyes are pretty it doesn't work.They're not hard to do and they are not too much. Report It
Reply:touch his arm, giggle, laugh at ALL of his jokes, smile, flutter your eyelashes, seem interested, ask him questions about himself, give him your number.
I love to flirt even if i dont like the guy is that bad?
i am one of the BIGGEST flirts and i am always flirting. its the best part of school to me! i always hug a guy, touch his hands or shoulders, smile, hold their hands, mess with their hair, andwear their jackters. i was even votes "biggest flirt" and "cutest girl". some girls dont like me b/c i flirt with the guys they like. but i dont even try to do it! its not like im a bitchy oerson. i think its actually automatic. whenever i see a member of the opposite sex, my charm and flirtaciousness just turns on and i dont even notice. i am NOT a sllut and i dont dress like one either. in fact, this guy turned me down because i was too much of a goody goody! so im not a ****, but i am a HUGEEE flirt. i am constantly flirting. is that bad, wrong, or unfair to the guys, if i always touch them, giggle, and flirt?
I love to flirt even if i dont like the guy is that bad?
You know flirting is not a bad thing but in this case your going to far. If you continue to flirt with guys you don't like they're going to get the wrong idea. That can get messy. The guy could become a stalker, you could get raped, they could get angry and spread rumors about you, or get emotionally hurt. It also sends out the wrong impression about you, girls will hate you and call you a w***e to your face and the guys well their not going to say what they think about you to your face. They'll run around telling everyone they know your an easy little hoe but not say it to you so they can try to get in your pants. A few of your close friends will understand thats just you but your just asking for trouble.
Now I have answered a few of your questions and know about your problems at home. I think your flirtation which gives the impression that you are something your not might have something to do with the things you've been through. Your need to be the center of attention is a big problem and you are going to find that it gets you into alot of trouble. I'll be honest if someone acted that way with my bf I'd be beating some a**. I'd hate to hear that something happend to you because some guy got the wrong impression or some girl doesn't like you trying to take her bf. When you behave in this manner guys WILL think it's because you like them and girls ARE going to think you want their bf. You need to be careful. I honestly believe you need to talk to a professional because of things going on at home and to help you learn why you behave like this and how to help stop it. It is not automatic to touch every guy you know. Some small flirtations are automatic but not to this degree. I hope you take my advice. I feel for you because of things going on in your life and I know where your headed if you don't deal with your issues. Take care.
Reply:no thats not bad at all just dont go too far and start leading them on
Reply:It's not bad... it's who you are. Just like with anyone, though, sometimes you have to keep yourself in check for your own sake. You don't want to push people away for something like flirting. Just be yourself but keep other peoples feelings in mind. If someone gets offended or is getting the wrong impression..... apologize and don't do it around that person anymore. Otherwise, you may end up making a lot of enemies. That's just the way it is, sadly. On the other hand... if you don't care what other people think... then who cares! Do what makes you happy!
Reply:It is at the least, very misleading to them. It sounds like you have a strong desire to be the center of attention, so if I were you, I would ask myself what is missing in my life that makes me want to have all of the attention in the room.
I'm glad to hear that you are not promiscuous, but you shouldn't be surprised if people think that you are...your behavior isn't lining up with your intentions, so you are feeling a strain and you are posing this question tonight.
A few questions for you:
Are you an insecure person? Do you have a father in your life? If so, what is your relationship with him?
Reply:Thats not a bad thing. Everybody needs some love. Im exactly the same way... except with women. :)
Reply:No, it's not wrong. In fact, I call that sharing your love and sharing your feelings that you really care about people (in general) when you hug them. The flirting isn't bad in itself, as long as you are not leading the other guys on -- and it sounds like you are not. Keep it on the up %26amp; up and all is well. The girlfriends are just being possessive, that's all -- don't worry about it -- as long as you don't overstep the boundaries set before you, you will be fine. Hugs are always free!!!
Reply:thats not bad, i do it all the time. it just means u like 2 have fun..lol!
Reply:I hear you on the flirting thing. I'm the same way, except in guy form. Honestly, it's not a BAD thing, but it could get you in a lot of trouble. Guys might take things to literally and girls might alienate you for being a natural flirt. Just be careful with who you flirt with and how you flirt.
Reply:flirting isn't always a bad thing
but if you do it too much understand that
your being a tease
and can cause guys to get the wrong impression.
and if you don't like "him"
and he starts liking you it gets pretty bad
so i know it's going to be hard
but I'd try to lessen up the flirting
i mean don't drop it just minimize it.
yeah hope i could give you advice that works.
Reply:no!!!! u go girl.. it's not bad at all.. thats who u are.. and thats ur personality.. i flrt alot too.. however i dont flirt with guys im not attracted to.. but i freaking go crazy flirting and teasing the hotties i like!
Reply:i wish i knew more girls/ a girl like you! there is nothing wrong with it. i like it when girls are like that w/ me, girlfriend or not. its just us high schoolers having fun.
Reply:It's ok to be that way if you intend on living your life alone or jumping from one guy to the next cause no man is going to put up with that for very long. I would say to try to keep your flirty ways to your man and you will be allright.
Reply:Same with Gecko... I really, really hate flirts.
Hope our paths will not cross... ever.
Reply:Touch me and you die.
I dislike girls like you. ;)
They mess with my vibes.
Reply:Flirting is not the trend anymore my dear. So stop it! It is very unfair to YOU!. If you think that you are all that, you are mistaken. When you flirt, men will take you up for that, then after 15 minutes (sometimes 5) you will not see them again nice to you. Flirt equals garbage.
teeth
I love to flirt even if i dont like the guy is that bad?
You know flirting is not a bad thing but in this case your going to far. If you continue to flirt with guys you don't like they're going to get the wrong idea. That can get messy. The guy could become a stalker, you could get raped, they could get angry and spread rumors about you, or get emotionally hurt. It also sends out the wrong impression about you, girls will hate you and call you a w***e to your face and the guys well their not going to say what they think about you to your face. They'll run around telling everyone they know your an easy little hoe but not say it to you so they can try to get in your pants. A few of your close friends will understand thats just you but your just asking for trouble.
Now I have answered a few of your questions and know about your problems at home. I think your flirtation which gives the impression that you are something your not might have something to do with the things you've been through. Your need to be the center of attention is a big problem and you are going to find that it gets you into alot of trouble. I'll be honest if someone acted that way with my bf I'd be beating some a**. I'd hate to hear that something happend to you because some guy got the wrong impression or some girl doesn't like you trying to take her bf. When you behave in this manner guys WILL think it's because you like them and girls ARE going to think you want their bf. You need to be careful. I honestly believe you need to talk to a professional because of things going on at home and to help you learn why you behave like this and how to help stop it. It is not automatic to touch every guy you know. Some small flirtations are automatic but not to this degree. I hope you take my advice. I feel for you because of things going on in your life and I know where your headed if you don't deal with your issues. Take care.
Reply:no thats not bad at all just dont go too far and start leading them on
Reply:It's not bad... it's who you are. Just like with anyone, though, sometimes you have to keep yourself in check for your own sake. You don't want to push people away for something like flirting. Just be yourself but keep other peoples feelings in mind. If someone gets offended or is getting the wrong impression..... apologize and don't do it around that person anymore. Otherwise, you may end up making a lot of enemies. That's just the way it is, sadly. On the other hand... if you don't care what other people think... then who cares! Do what makes you happy!
Reply:It is at the least, very misleading to them. It sounds like you have a strong desire to be the center of attention, so if I were you, I would ask myself what is missing in my life that makes me want to have all of the attention in the room.
I'm glad to hear that you are not promiscuous, but you shouldn't be surprised if people think that you are...your behavior isn't lining up with your intentions, so you are feeling a strain and you are posing this question tonight.
A few questions for you:
Are you an insecure person? Do you have a father in your life? If so, what is your relationship with him?
Reply:Thats not a bad thing. Everybody needs some love. Im exactly the same way... except with women. :)
Reply:No, it's not wrong. In fact, I call that sharing your love and sharing your feelings that you really care about people (in general) when you hug them. The flirting isn't bad in itself, as long as you are not leading the other guys on -- and it sounds like you are not. Keep it on the up %26amp; up and all is well. The girlfriends are just being possessive, that's all -- don't worry about it -- as long as you don't overstep the boundaries set before you, you will be fine. Hugs are always free!!!
Reply:thats not bad, i do it all the time. it just means u like 2 have fun..lol!
Reply:I hear you on the flirting thing. I'm the same way, except in guy form. Honestly, it's not a BAD thing, but it could get you in a lot of trouble. Guys might take things to literally and girls might alienate you for being a natural flirt. Just be careful with who you flirt with and how you flirt.
Reply:flirting isn't always a bad thing
but if you do it too much understand that
your being a tease
and can cause guys to get the wrong impression.
and if you don't like "him"
and he starts liking you it gets pretty bad
so i know it's going to be hard
but I'd try to lessen up the flirting
i mean don't drop it just minimize it.
yeah hope i could give you advice that works.
Reply:no!!!! u go girl.. it's not bad at all.. thats who u are.. and thats ur personality.. i flrt alot too.. however i dont flirt with guys im not attracted to.. but i freaking go crazy flirting and teasing the hotties i like!
Reply:i wish i knew more girls/ a girl like you! there is nothing wrong with it. i like it when girls are like that w/ me, girlfriend or not. its just us high schoolers having fun.
Reply:It's ok to be that way if you intend on living your life alone or jumping from one guy to the next cause no man is going to put up with that for very long. I would say to try to keep your flirty ways to your man and you will be allright.
Reply:Same with Gecko... I really, really hate flirts.
Hope our paths will not cross... ever.
Reply:Touch me and you die.
I dislike girls like you. ;)
They mess with my vibes.
Reply:Flirting is not the trend anymore my dear. So stop it! It is very unfair to YOU!. If you think that you are all that, you are mistaken. When you flirt, men will take you up for that, then after 15 minutes (sometimes 5) you will not see them again nice to you. Flirt equals garbage.
teeth
How do you flirt? How do you know if someone's flirting?
It seems like there are many different ways to flirt with someone. I'm curious as to how you guys and gals flirt. What techniques do you use?
For example, I've seen a guy and girl flirt by being cocky and making jokes and slappin each other playfully. Is that flirting? Don't friends do this too though? How do you tell it apart?
And how do you know if a girl is flirting for real? Like, how do you know if she's just flirting for fun or if she's attracted?
How do you flirt? How do you know if someone's flirting?
This is kind of a weird question, i mean if a guy or girl is flirting, YOU'LL KNOW. But there's definitely light playful touching, cute jokes, jazzy little sexual (nothing dirty) remarks here and there. If they have overtly sexy, or corny jokes, then they probably are flirting, their just doing a BAD job at it though. I believe fllirting is something that occurs naturally, and yo u can't really LEARN it per say, but try to look at this site and see if it helps!
Reply:Rwar, girls flirt in different ways but, the best way to tell is if she's smiling. If she is, she likes you! I coached many in the art of flirtation through messenger consultation with extreme success. I'd love to help you.
David Sexton., PHD Human Relationships/Author
For example, I've seen a guy and girl flirt by being cocky and making jokes and slappin each other playfully. Is that flirting? Don't friends do this too though? How do you tell it apart?
And how do you know if a girl is flirting for real? Like, how do you know if she's just flirting for fun or if she's attracted?
How do you flirt? How do you know if someone's flirting?
This is kind of a weird question, i mean if a guy or girl is flirting, YOU'LL KNOW. But there's definitely light playful touching, cute jokes, jazzy little sexual (nothing dirty) remarks here and there. If they have overtly sexy, or corny jokes, then they probably are flirting, their just doing a BAD job at it though. I believe fllirting is something that occurs naturally, and yo u can't really LEARN it per say, but try to look at this site and see if it helps!
Reply:Rwar, girls flirt in different ways but, the best way to tell is if she's smiling. If she is, she likes you! I coached many in the art of flirtation through messenger consultation with extreme success. I'd love to help you.
David Sexton., PHD Human Relationships/Author
Wrong to Flirt?
Me %26amp; a good friend of mine tend to flirt a little, but there's no temptation to go beyond that. I have no feelings for her, and vice versa, other than friendship. I've been out of town for a few months. She got a boob job while I was gone and she wanted to show me her new assets that she was so proud of. Before I could say anything, here come the girls. I froze. Didn't know what to do or say.
I'm married, and made the decision to be committed to my marriage %26amp; husband. Relationships with women for me are a thing of the past, and a chapter of my life that has come to an end. I've drawn a line in the sand that I will not cross.
Sometimes I catch myself being flirted with, and flirting back, and not realizing it. I admit that I like flirting. I would never put myself in a compromising position nor let anything go beyond flirting though. Should I stop hanging around her? Should I keep all females at arms length if the potential to flirt is there? Don't want to cross a line.
Wrong to Flirt?
Nah, sounds like you have it under control and know your boundries...don't end a friendship based on what if's! Just tell her...wow...sorry, that made me uncomfortable...she will be fine...i am sure!
Reply:That seems to be a common thing .... women who have rack jobs want to show off the work ... I just wish someone would show me the work they got done.... I love racks
Reply:you wouldn't be asking this question if you were not thinking about it still, there is nothing wrong with checking out her new puppies.
you don't have to touch just look
Reply:this question is hot, lol
hmm a line in the sand doesn't sound too firm.
if she was just showing off her new boobs, i wouldn't let it end a friendship. as long as you are able to control yourself i see nothing wrong with the situation, so in my opinion you can still be friends.
Reply:Female or male has nothing to do with it, first of all.
Second of all, flirting is a great morale booster. Everyone needs a little flirting in their lives.
Reply:flirting isnt a bad thing at all, as long as you dont push the limits if there is no urge to go beyond flirting and you feel comfortable with that person, then go ahead and flirt, cause trust me being flirted with feels great. Just make sure you dont go beyond that
Reply:um u made a line, yes, you may have stopped your self this time, but you made a line for a reason. Other people have no obligation to your husband, so what's going to stop them from trying to cross the line.
Reply:It sounds harmless
I'm married, and made the decision to be committed to my marriage %26amp; husband. Relationships with women for me are a thing of the past, and a chapter of my life that has come to an end. I've drawn a line in the sand that I will not cross.
Sometimes I catch myself being flirted with, and flirting back, and not realizing it. I admit that I like flirting. I would never put myself in a compromising position nor let anything go beyond flirting though. Should I stop hanging around her? Should I keep all females at arms length if the potential to flirt is there? Don't want to cross a line.
Wrong to Flirt?
Nah, sounds like you have it under control and know your boundries...don't end a friendship based on what if's! Just tell her...wow...sorry, that made me uncomfortable...she will be fine...i am sure!
Reply:That seems to be a common thing .... women who have rack jobs want to show off the work ... I just wish someone would show me the work they got done.... I love racks
Reply:you wouldn't be asking this question if you were not thinking about it still, there is nothing wrong with checking out her new puppies.
you don't have to touch just look
Reply:this question is hot, lol
hmm a line in the sand doesn't sound too firm.
if she was just showing off her new boobs, i wouldn't let it end a friendship. as long as you are able to control yourself i see nothing wrong with the situation, so in my opinion you can still be friends.
Reply:Female or male has nothing to do with it, first of all.
Second of all, flirting is a great morale booster. Everyone needs a little flirting in their lives.
Reply:flirting isnt a bad thing at all, as long as you dont push the limits if there is no urge to go beyond flirting and you feel comfortable with that person, then go ahead and flirt, cause trust me being flirted with feels great. Just make sure you dont go beyond that
Reply:um u made a line, yes, you may have stopped your self this time, but you made a line for a reason. Other people have no obligation to your husband, so what's going to stop them from trying to cross the line.
Reply:It sounds harmless
How to flirt ??
i try flirting with girls but, every time i do then look at me as to say what you doing,
they just walk away from me,
how is the best way to flirt, whats the key to it
whats the best flirting lines to use
there is a reason me asking because there is a girl a really like i know her very well, and she likes guys that flirt with here
but i would like to flirt with her wothout her knowing,
how can i do that please help me stuck,
best flirt lines what are they
thanks for reading this
How to flirt ??
make her laugh; compliment her...............and ONE thing you should NEVER do is try to HARD! just chill it out........Good luck!
Reply:Using quips and 'lines' won't work. The sure-fire way to flirt is this: you always prepare the turf by being very normal and just saying hi, if it feels natural say something really normal. Leave it at that and move on. Next time you come in you have already broken the ice so just start a normal conversation like you know each other. Gauge her reaction: is she responding or cool? If she is relaxed keep it up. On your third meeting go in for the catch. Ask her for a coffee or something.
Reply:Flirting is very abstract. Is is a way of speaking between the lines. For example:
Dave: Hey how was your day?
Angela:Good. yours?
Dave: Better, since your here.
Situation 2:
Dave: Did you go see that movie at the theater? You know the new one?
Angela: No. Why?
Dave: Do you wanna go see it, with me?
Situation 3:
Dave: Are you tired?
Angela: No. Why
Dave: Cuz you've been running through my mind all day...
That last one was a joke...
Just be yourself. Try just putting little hints here and there and if it isn't working, just up the intensity a little, your bound to get her attention.....
But if it really doesn't work... just be honest and tell her you really like her....
Reply:be natural when u are with her then u will succeed. u dont need to be taught. it comes from within
Reply:You don't need lines for flirting. That is like picking people up, which some girls might find annoying. Complimenting girls is a great way to flirt, it embarrasses and pleases them. Also making light jokes or teasing to make them laugh is considered flirting.
Reply:ask her for her opinion on something that she might be interested in. women like being asked for advice.
a quite sweet way to break the ice and find out the real answer is to smile at her and say "hypothetically, if a man wanted to chat you up or ask you out, what would be the best way to do it?"
when she responds, smile enigmatically to yourself then change the subject completely.
this will have her wondering to herself about your motivations and whether or not you actually will ask her out. after a while she may even start to chase you.
this is when you follow her advice and strike for that date.
good luck!
Reply:You cannot learn to be a flirt - because it will come out as superficial and that you try too hard.
You have to be natural with it.
Just be yourself and smile a lot.
Simple.
NB: And don't TRY and be like someone else. You'll just make yourself look stupid.
Reply:Try to be subtle and make them laugh that worked for me with my wife and now I flirt for fun with lady's all the time maybe it's different when you flirt for fun as you are under no pressure!!
Reply:be yourself, make them laugh
Reply:To be hounst a lot of Flirting is done off the cuff, like answering back in a sexual and whitty way some people are really good some just can't do it - I don't think there are any one liners really but I could be wrong - good luck with your girl
they just walk away from me,
how is the best way to flirt, whats the key to it
whats the best flirting lines to use
there is a reason me asking because there is a girl a really like i know her very well, and she likes guys that flirt with here
but i would like to flirt with her wothout her knowing,
how can i do that please help me stuck,
best flirt lines what are they
thanks for reading this
How to flirt ??
make her laugh; compliment her...............and ONE thing you should NEVER do is try to HARD! just chill it out........Good luck!
Reply:Using quips and 'lines' won't work. The sure-fire way to flirt is this: you always prepare the turf by being very normal and just saying hi, if it feels natural say something really normal. Leave it at that and move on. Next time you come in you have already broken the ice so just start a normal conversation like you know each other. Gauge her reaction: is she responding or cool? If she is relaxed keep it up. On your third meeting go in for the catch. Ask her for a coffee or something.
Reply:Flirting is very abstract. Is is a way of speaking between the lines. For example:
Dave: Hey how was your day?
Angela:Good. yours?
Dave: Better, since your here.
Situation 2:
Dave: Did you go see that movie at the theater? You know the new one?
Angela: No. Why?
Dave: Do you wanna go see it, with me?
Situation 3:
Dave: Are you tired?
Angela: No. Why
Dave: Cuz you've been running through my mind all day...
That last one was a joke...
Just be yourself. Try just putting little hints here and there and if it isn't working, just up the intensity a little, your bound to get her attention.....
But if it really doesn't work... just be honest and tell her you really like her....
Reply:be natural when u are with her then u will succeed. u dont need to be taught. it comes from within
Reply:You don't need lines for flirting. That is like picking people up, which some girls might find annoying. Complimenting girls is a great way to flirt, it embarrasses and pleases them. Also making light jokes or teasing to make them laugh is considered flirting.
Reply:ask her for her opinion on something that she might be interested in. women like being asked for advice.
a quite sweet way to break the ice and find out the real answer is to smile at her and say "hypothetically, if a man wanted to chat you up or ask you out, what would be the best way to do it?"
when she responds, smile enigmatically to yourself then change the subject completely.
this will have her wondering to herself about your motivations and whether or not you actually will ask her out. after a while she may even start to chase you.
this is when you follow her advice and strike for that date.
good luck!
Reply:You cannot learn to be a flirt - because it will come out as superficial and that you try too hard.
You have to be natural with it.
Just be yourself and smile a lot.
Simple.
NB: And don't TRY and be like someone else. You'll just make yourself look stupid.
Reply:Try to be subtle and make them laugh that worked for me with my wife and now I flirt for fun with lady's all the time maybe it's different when you flirt for fun as you are under no pressure!!
Reply:be yourself, make them laugh
Reply:To be hounst a lot of Flirting is done off the cuff, like answering back in a sexual and whitty way some people are really good some just can't do it - I don't think there are any one liners really but I could be wrong - good luck with your girl
Other women flirt with my husband, but he does stop them. This leads them on, right?
Not to brag, but my husband is very good looking. In not...lol. Other women are constantly flirting with him, even right in front of me. Most of the time is women he doesnt know, because it will happen out in public.
My neighbor has a 2 year old son that we babysit sometimes. This morning when she dropped him off, my husband answered the door and she thought i was asleep. She said to my husband, 'Oohhhh daddy, arent we dressed up nice?" She said it in a flirting voice. But then in a plain voice she said, "Wheres your wife? Asleep?" All my husband said was , "No, she getting dressed."
This reaaly hurts my feelings. He says that he doesnt flirt back, which IS true, he DOESNT flirt back. However, he doesnt stop the other women from flirting with him, or he never says , "Sorry, i'm married." Wouldn't that lead them on if he lets them flirt with him? I know if i was single and flirted with a guy, and they didnt stop it, i would take it as a sign that they like me! I
Other women flirt with my husband, but he does stop them. This leads them on, right?
well you've answered your own question really; he cheated and you dont trust him to say no.
You chose to forgive him and stay (obviously) so you're going to have to get over those feelings. You cant stay with him and then hold it over his head the rest of your life, you wouldnt be happy and neither would he. If you havent already gone to couples counseling I would do that. Staying in a marriage with someone who has committed adultery numerous times shows the depth of your insecurity and lack of self confidence. You dont have to deal with it, but you are choosing to. And since you are choosing that, make him go with you to the therapy and work through it.
Regardless if he had cheated or not, the flirting is an issue. People can say that 'married not dead' bullsh|t all they want to but its disrespectful and unnecessary. Talking is one thing, coming onto to someone expressing sexual interest is another.
Given his prior track record though, he should be more sensitive and mindful of these situations and rectify them as soon as they arise. Him not doing so is signaling to you (and others) that he hasnt learned from his ways and isnt really sorry about it. He's not trying to ease your mind or remove the behaviors that could escalate into another affair. He did screw up and should be kissing your feet and trying to make you feel better any chance he gets.
Give the counseling a try, if it doesnt get any better after that then you will again have to decide if youre willing to put up with him and his groupies for the rest of your marriage.
Reply:Ok, so he has cheated twice... and you took him back...
so what were your expectations of him when you took him back? it sounds like you may have both just agreed to work things out and you didn't demand that he makes sure to stop the flirting.
you should be more demanding. It isn't appropriate to flirt in any case, but the fact that he has cheated on you twice and still allows the flirtings to continue shows that he looooves the attention. Oh, believe me, he KNOWS he is good looking and he KNOWS how much the women are flirting with him. He KNOWS by not saying anything like "I am married" he is leading them on. If women are trying to flirt then he should not be giving them eye contact...
now that the nieghboor has done what she has done, which is CLEARLY flirting with your husband, you should DEMAND that you have nothing to do with her anymore. He should respect you enough to honor those wishes. Why does this woman DESERVE your friendship? She doesn't. You shouldn't help a woman out who is doing something like this.
you need to stand up for yourself more.
Reply:He's not flirting back. If the other women are too stupid to notice he's not interested in them, that's their problem. He's not doing anything wrong.
Reply:I had the same problem with my husband. The way I see it, he's not flirting back, so most women should see that as him being uninterested. A lot of people flirt without it meaning anything. He's not leading them on, by flirting back. And the maybe the reason he doesn't stop them is because it's an ego boost for him. And him saying, "Sorry, I'm married," isn't going to do much when the girls (like your neighbor) already know.
Reply:It does not sound like he is leading on at all. In the example you cited, about him all dressed up, he could have said, "well, I knew you were coming over and wanted to look my best."
If he says anything to discourage them, he will just look vain and defensive. If you say anything, you will look terribly insecure. All of this is about the type of flirting you used as an example. If it gets directly sexual, I would alter my opinion.
Reply:You are being ridiculous.. So what if they flirt.. make yourself more flirty and sexy with him. Of course he enjoys the compliments.. who wouldn't?? Trust.. is there.. don't destroy it. You are insecure.. fix that.. then move on an have some hot sex with your.. I stress your husband. Number two reason for divorce the green eyed monster jealousy.
Reply:HMMM either you trust him or you don't....seems to me you don't. If he is not flirting back I would say you are blowing out of proportion....i'm sure there will be alot of people who have a different point of view on this however. If a guy flirted with you it would probably feel really good, which is what it probably does for your husband....but he is not flirting back or anything so what is the problem? Jealousy can be a breaker in a relationship, especially when it is not warranted.
Good Luck
Reply:I think the flirting is innocent. The woman gave your husband a compliment. He probably was "dressed up nice". Don't let it hurt your feelings. You are beautiful and your husband is with you. Be glad that your man is so fine. I don't think he is leading women on. And you know, some women are vultures, but you will know one of them and you will have to step in.
Reply:I don't think it's wrong for him to be flattered, and that's all it is. Everyone is flattered when people find them attractive. When men flirt with you, don't you feel good about yourself and feel like smiling? I know you say you're not that good looking, but you probably aren't as bad as you think, especially in your husband's eyes. You know that it doesn't go beyond him being flattered by how he doesnt' flirt back. It's not like he tries to act like you don't exist when those women are around, he always acknowledges that you are there, which is important. That is how men subtly tell women that they are off-limits without being in their faces with "I'm married, stop" every time they get a compliment. Now, if you are somewhere and he leaves you to go talk to some woman that was flirting with him, that would be different (not cheating, but hurtful).
Reply:i totally understand how you feel! it sucks. i would consider myself to be attractive, but for some reason the past two guys i have been with (were extremely attractive) and would get tons of attention everywhere we go. I was shocked at how bold and rude some women were, even while i was standing right beside them. anyways, the scenario that you posted about the neighbor coming over and saying that, i think your husband handled it well, seeing as he DIDN'T flirt back with her, so that was a form of a rejection on her part. however i know that you would have love to hear something like "my beautiful wife who i adore is getting dressed right now" but men many times don't think that far into things to give such an eloquent answer. i would step up the game some. don't act jealous or insecure by clinging to your husband or being rude, but if women do flirt with your husband in front of you, don't be scared to look them in the eye and make some kind of comment (possibly introducing yourself) assert your presence and let them know that your the queen bee. for instance when the neighbor woman came over and said that (don't be shy or feel awkward because its your man and that woman she be the one feeling awkward) i would have come up to the door and made some kind of comment like "isn't daddy looking nice for his wife today" and then leaned over and kissed him on the cheek and walked off. she would have caught the vibe loud and clear. women are very intuitive about those things. and i would talk to your husband a little bit more about it. don't overkill it though because men like a confident woman. but tell him that you see him as the protector of your family and relationship and if someone does anything to threaten or disrespect your family or relationship be it man or woman you would like to see him step up to the plate and demand respect in someway. tell him you find that attractive and that makes you feel safe. good luck, i know how frustrating it is.
OKAY YOU'RE ADDITIONAL DETAIL OF HIM CHEATING MAKES A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE IN HOW PEOPLE ARE GOING TO RESPOND. YOU'RE HUSBAND HAS CHEATED ON YOU TWICE...NOT ONCE, BUT TWICE! HE'S GOT PROBLEMS AND I WOULDN'T TRUST HIM EITHER. HE SHOULD BE GOING ABOVE AND BEYOND TO MAKE YOU FEEL SAFE SINCE HE HAS CHEATED ON YOU. IT SOUNDS LIKE HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY RESPECT FOR YOU. QUITE FRANKLY HE SOUNDS LIKE AN A**HOLE AND I WOULD START PACKING MY BAGS BEFORE HEART ACHE STRIKES AGAIN.
Reply:I think this is something you should talk to him about, ask him why he is not stopping this and it is making you very uncomfortable!
You have got to talk to him about this, if you do not, it will grow and fester inside of you and cause more tention in your marriage, and you do not want that.
Communication and honesty and trust are just a few things to base a happy marriage on.
Reply:OK.....my husband is also a great looking man.....EVERYBODY flirts with him. I am glad he is having fun in life. He doesn't flirt back, he has a great since of hum our and makes fun of it. When my friends play/flirt with him he makes them laugh. I am certain that when he goes to work that he gets hit on plenty, he works in a hospital. My point to you is that if a man has morals, is married to you and you have a solid relationship that there shouldn't be anything to worry about. I know that when a man flirts with me, I make fun. I Don't flirt back and that my husband has nothing to worry about. You say that you aren't good looking? I think probably that you are, do what you can to accent the good, fix yourself up, go to a salon, get the "treatment" makeup, hair, etc, go shopping for really flattering clothes, most any one who tries can be beautiful on the exterior as well as the interior. You will feel better. If money is an issue, find a special at the salon and splurge and thrift shops in upscale neighborhoods have some great clothes. Good luck....don't worry.
Reply:Okay, you need to take a step back and look at what a rare situation you have. He doesn't flirt back. You can't stop a woman from flirting your husband. If they're determined to make an idiot of themselves and moon over him what he says to them is just fine. As long as he doesn't flirt back, he's cutting them off. Do the same women keep flitring with him? You said strangers right?
If youre husband answers the question, or better yet doesn't answer their questions and completely ignores them, he's doing all he can politely and without causing a scene to stop them from flirting.
That answer to her was the best answer he could have given. SHort and to the point, with a clear message, "No she's getting dressed," meant, "No, i'm not interested. Stop." He is most definately NOT leading them on.
Okay. the key word in your last statement, is "single" and you're a woman. Respectable married men take flirting differently. If they ignore it, or don't say anything, and don't encourage it, they're not leading anyone on. They're just doing just that, ignoring it. Do the women usually stop, or keep going? Or is it a different woman everytime?
Try not to be so hard on your husband. I don't think he's leading anyone on. If he doesn't flirt back, he's not trying to do anything underhanded. It may be his way of telling other women to stop and he's expecting them to know better and back off. If they continue to the point where it's ridiculous and he still does nothing, at least he's doing nothing, instead of doing something bad.
Talk to him...gently about it, if the latter is true. Just ask him, if it would be ok if he just said, "Listen, I'm married." For you, to make you feel better, ask him to just do that one little thing. Tell him you believe him (and mean it), that he isn't doing anything wrong, just to make you feel better. If he loves you i'm sure he'll give it a try.
Good luck!
Reply:You are being too touchy about, he is good looking and other women are always going to flirt with him.
Seems he did good when telling the other woman "No she is getting dressed", that woman knows he's married so what should he have done.
Get over it, or get out. you are just going to drive yourself and him crazy with your insecurities.
You might try counseling
Reply:What is the man supposed to do, act like a little boy? He cannot control what these women do. He can only control himself. Even if he says he's married, women will flirt with him. It didn't stop your neighbor, and she KNOWS he's married! Women are going to make their comments, whether he's married or not. Most of this is harmless flirting. You take it to another level, when you throw it in your husband's face, as if he's responsible for it.
Your feelings are too easily hurt and it's going to effect your marriage, if you don't stop pressuring this man. You knew he was attractive when you married him. He's very good looking--remember? You said it yourself. Now, you need to trust his judgement and let him handle this. Your husband sounds like he's handling it just fine. When your neighbor flirted with him, he ignored her careless comment and simply said his wife was getting dressed. He's a man, not your child; so stop pressuring him!
Reply:Wifey, let me see if I can get you to see it through his eyes. Now, we're going to turn this around and saying it you getting alot of flirts from the guys that see you. A guy saying this to you....oh my, I know it will be a lovely day, heaven open up its doors and send an angel my way. Another guy would said this; I have seen the beauty in a sunrise and sunset, until I saw you there is nothing like the best. Now, I will take the chance that you like these compliments. Since you get these kind of flirt most of the time, its normal for you and you have no interest to response to them. but what if your husband heard these wouldn't he want to fight back? Would the thought of insecure enter your mind? Remember this wifey, guys enjoys compliment too! As long he didn't start it or act interest in the ladies. There is no need to be upset, for you is time to get back flirting with your husband.
Reply:WOW Gee I'm not sure your going to like my answer but here goes. Your husbands married NOT dead, hell I smile when a woman flirts with my husband, slip my arms through his and wink at her telling her something in a joking way of "Sorry he's all mine" or "Sorry I'm not sharing him" LOL. Don't try to make him feel guilty that he's a hottie. Be proud that he's YOUR'S you know. Now you have to remember that looking and flirting are just in peoples nature and alot of the time it keeps people knowing their still attractive. Don't you feel good when a man takes a look at you or says "damn she's hot" when you walk by? Hell I know I do , when a man openly flirts with me or looks at me my husband just smiles and puts his arm around me. This is your insecurity, he's obviously very much in love with YOU right? So try not to get your feelings hurt, dwelling on this will only lead to problems in your marriage. Right now it's just that you say it hurts your feelings BUT one day soon every time he walks out the door your going to think , well I wonder if a womans flirting and will he cheat on me. That's going to hurt your relationship big time. Good Luck hon a think of it this way, I'm sure you would rather have a man that women want to look at as opposed to a man no woman would look at!!!
Reply:Unfortunately what I'm hearing is your insecurities about your looks vs. your husband's. This is really about you, not him. If he's truly a good looking man, he's used to women flirting with him, it's probably been a part of his whole teen and adult life. But the thing to remember - and I know it's hard - is that out of all those women he could have, he chose YOU. Even if you think you are not attractive, HE does and that should make you feel fantastic! If he wasn't attracted to your outward appearance, then something inside shined through and he was attracted to that. Don't nag your husband about this- I'm not sure how long you've been married but again, it seems like you have to work on your self esteem. True, he could shoot down their advances and shout to the world "I'm married" but he probably doesn't feel the need to. And he probably does enjoy the attention to a point, but still, he married you. If he wanted those other women he wouldn't have married you. If this continues to bother you, try fixing yourself up, if you need more hair, buy some, if it's make up, get some. Need a boob job, get it. Seriously, I feel like a little extra help in the beauty department, when needed, never hurts anyone. Good luck.
Reply:When a woman comes up to him in public you look them in the eye and say why yes my husband is a good looking man don't ya think? Not only are you telling them he is married you tell them you know what they are thinking most will back off. As for your neighbor.I wouldn't trust her. She knows you and wants you to watch her son and flirt with your hubby. I would tell her sorry isn't going to happen.
Reply:I think you're wrong. Your husband is doing nothing wrong, and he is not angry at being flirted with. You are the one who is bothered by their behavior. Therefore, since you are the one who has the problem with it, it falls to you to do something about it.
That said, I don't even see why it matters to you. We men who are married to attractive women have to put up with it constantly, because, believe me, men flirt with good looking women a lot more than women flirt with good looking men. Men talk up my wife all the time, but she's with me, so I just smile and tell her it's no wonder to me they're attracted to her.
Reply:This is tough dear,most men like that and yes you're right it could go further.
I would write a letter to my husband and explain my feelings,I think it's okay let him know you're hurt and jealous.
I would also try to stop the other women ,by any way you can .
You see dear for some reason ladies like to flirt with other men especially cute ones.and they don't care about our feelings so why should you care about them,defend what's rightfully yours in every way you know and if he loved you he'll understand,it's not only his responsibility but yours too.
Reply:wrong...wrong....wrong.....your wrong about everything.....its your job to stop the flirting.....if he hasnt done it yet he never will...
Reply:Hi!
I could see why this would upset you. However, if he is not flirting with them, you really have no beef. If women come up to him while you are there, you need to address them. I would say, my baby sure is fine, huh? You have to trust that he loves you and that he is married to you so that is where he wants to be. The neighbor I would check. Especially if she wants you to watch her son, I would let her know that I heard her comment and that it was inappropriate. Good Luck to you!!
Reply:TRUST your husband!! If he truly feels that there is no issue then maybe it means way more to you then him!! He might not even realize that they are flirting with him.
Reply:He doesn't flirt back. That's the most important thing. I have much the same issue with my wife, in that she doesn't stop it, but at least she doesn't flirt back.
I think when you are with someone who is nice to other people, it seems rude to just bring someone up short like that. For one, it's very presumptious to think anything is intended by the flirting. As much as I'd like my wife to stop the guys short, that really is MY job, not hers. Just as this is YOUR job, not his. When women flirt with him in front of you, you can be polite, but you need to assert your presence. It sounds like your husband is loyal to you, so he'll take your lead if you do that.
Reply:I had a bf that was so good looking... same scenario as you described. I was very flattered by the other women's attention. Never thought anything else about it.
Reply:He is not responsible for other women - so when you say that he "lets them flirt with him" you are wrong. He has no control over other women's behaviour. And it sounds to me like he's doing exactly what he should be - not recirprocating. So what are you so upset about? Just because he doesn't feel a need to mention he's married doesn't mean he's leading them on. You need to get some self confidence and relax. Seriously..
Reply:he may be thinking he does not want to be mean to these lady, the neighbor I am speaking of mostly...which is more important, how you feel, or how these ladies feel...let him know this! obviously your feelings are more important...she does know he's married and she probably knows he won't stop her from flirting at the same time...I am sure he will speak up if he has to eventually...so she keeps doing it...until he does say something, and yes, one thing can lead to another...if he lets it happen...=(...she probably flirts because she also knows he is quite handsome...and knows you are just the regular plain jane...no offense...I am a jane too, lol! Just keep an eye on this lady, This applies to the neighbor...now, So, some of these ladies think he will leave his plain wife for them, these are the ladies who he only sees in public now and then...but, you see, he married you, not them...keep remembering that! I am sure he will remain faithful...but, perhaps you could step in when you are around and let them know you are displeased w/ their comments...! Say, "Hi, I am his wife...and smile and hold his hand =)".
Reply:Well sista, i know ur pain. But this REALLY works
My husband is really good looking too and i am not but thats just the point, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. you just need to realise it.
I felt insecure at first but then i tried a different strategy and it works !! when women look at your husband trying holding him and kissing him affectionately, make a display of it, that puts them off totally cos they know the man is taken. and this keeps the sparks flying too (lol). Seriously try it. you're good looking too, i mean if u can land a man as good looking as your husband then its a matter of your confidence and self esteem. Dress up, look and feel sexy, that way u wont feel concious about urself.
And pleeeese let the neighbour take care of her own kids, she made them, she can take care of them, she sounds like trouble. make sure she gets the message if not from your husband then from u.
Smother him with affection the next time she comes round and make excuses, not to take care of her kids.
u owe it to yourself !!!!
Reply:your husband is probably flattered with these other women flirting with him. he also probably thinks as long as he doesn't flirt back that it doesn't do any harm, even though it bothers you.
how often do you flirt w/ him? just b/c you are married doesn't mean that you can't flirt w/ him and chase him like b4 you guys were married!
Reply:get over it..he is married, not dead
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My neighbor has a 2 year old son that we babysit sometimes. This morning when she dropped him off, my husband answered the door and she thought i was asleep. She said to my husband, 'Oohhhh daddy, arent we dressed up nice?" She said it in a flirting voice. But then in a plain voice she said, "Wheres your wife? Asleep?" All my husband said was , "No, she getting dressed."
This reaaly hurts my feelings. He says that he doesnt flirt back, which IS true, he DOESNT flirt back. However, he doesnt stop the other women from flirting with him, or he never says , "Sorry, i'm married." Wouldn't that lead them on if he lets them flirt with him? I know if i was single and flirted with a guy, and they didnt stop it, i would take it as a sign that they like me! I
Other women flirt with my husband, but he does stop them. This leads them on, right?
well you've answered your own question really; he cheated and you dont trust him to say no.
You chose to forgive him and stay (obviously) so you're going to have to get over those feelings. You cant stay with him and then hold it over his head the rest of your life, you wouldnt be happy and neither would he. If you havent already gone to couples counseling I would do that. Staying in a marriage with someone who has committed adultery numerous times shows the depth of your insecurity and lack of self confidence. You dont have to deal with it, but you are choosing to. And since you are choosing that, make him go with you to the therapy and work through it.
Regardless if he had cheated or not, the flirting is an issue. People can say that 'married not dead' bullsh|t all they want to but its disrespectful and unnecessary. Talking is one thing, coming onto to someone expressing sexual interest is another.
Given his prior track record though, he should be more sensitive and mindful of these situations and rectify them as soon as they arise. Him not doing so is signaling to you (and others) that he hasnt learned from his ways and isnt really sorry about it. He's not trying to ease your mind or remove the behaviors that could escalate into another affair. He did screw up and should be kissing your feet and trying to make you feel better any chance he gets.
Give the counseling a try, if it doesnt get any better after that then you will again have to decide if youre willing to put up with him and his groupies for the rest of your marriage.
Reply:Ok, so he has cheated twice... and you took him back...
so what were your expectations of him when you took him back? it sounds like you may have both just agreed to work things out and you didn't demand that he makes sure to stop the flirting.
you should be more demanding. It isn't appropriate to flirt in any case, but the fact that he has cheated on you twice and still allows the flirtings to continue shows that he looooves the attention. Oh, believe me, he KNOWS he is good looking and he KNOWS how much the women are flirting with him. He KNOWS by not saying anything like "I am married" he is leading them on. If women are trying to flirt then he should not be giving them eye contact...
now that the nieghboor has done what she has done, which is CLEARLY flirting with your husband, you should DEMAND that you have nothing to do with her anymore. He should respect you enough to honor those wishes. Why does this woman DESERVE your friendship? She doesn't. You shouldn't help a woman out who is doing something like this.
you need to stand up for yourself more.
Reply:He's not flirting back. If the other women are too stupid to notice he's not interested in them, that's their problem. He's not doing anything wrong.
Reply:I had the same problem with my husband. The way I see it, he's not flirting back, so most women should see that as him being uninterested. A lot of people flirt without it meaning anything. He's not leading them on, by flirting back. And the maybe the reason he doesn't stop them is because it's an ego boost for him. And him saying, "Sorry, I'm married," isn't going to do much when the girls (like your neighbor) already know.
Reply:It does not sound like he is leading on at all. In the example you cited, about him all dressed up, he could have said, "well, I knew you were coming over and wanted to look my best."
If he says anything to discourage them, he will just look vain and defensive. If you say anything, you will look terribly insecure. All of this is about the type of flirting you used as an example. If it gets directly sexual, I would alter my opinion.
Reply:You are being ridiculous.. So what if they flirt.. make yourself more flirty and sexy with him. Of course he enjoys the compliments.. who wouldn't?? Trust.. is there.. don't destroy it. You are insecure.. fix that.. then move on an have some hot sex with your.. I stress your husband. Number two reason for divorce the green eyed monster jealousy.
Reply:HMMM either you trust him or you don't....seems to me you don't. If he is not flirting back I would say you are blowing out of proportion....i'm sure there will be alot of people who have a different point of view on this however. If a guy flirted with you it would probably feel really good, which is what it probably does for your husband....but he is not flirting back or anything so what is the problem? Jealousy can be a breaker in a relationship, especially when it is not warranted.
Good Luck
Reply:I think the flirting is innocent. The woman gave your husband a compliment. He probably was "dressed up nice". Don't let it hurt your feelings. You are beautiful and your husband is with you. Be glad that your man is so fine. I don't think he is leading women on. And you know, some women are vultures, but you will know one of them and you will have to step in.
Reply:I don't think it's wrong for him to be flattered, and that's all it is. Everyone is flattered when people find them attractive. When men flirt with you, don't you feel good about yourself and feel like smiling? I know you say you're not that good looking, but you probably aren't as bad as you think, especially in your husband's eyes. You know that it doesn't go beyond him being flattered by how he doesnt' flirt back. It's not like he tries to act like you don't exist when those women are around, he always acknowledges that you are there, which is important. That is how men subtly tell women that they are off-limits without being in their faces with "I'm married, stop" every time they get a compliment. Now, if you are somewhere and he leaves you to go talk to some woman that was flirting with him, that would be different (not cheating, but hurtful).
Reply:i totally understand how you feel! it sucks. i would consider myself to be attractive, but for some reason the past two guys i have been with (were extremely attractive) and would get tons of attention everywhere we go. I was shocked at how bold and rude some women were, even while i was standing right beside them. anyways, the scenario that you posted about the neighbor coming over and saying that, i think your husband handled it well, seeing as he DIDN'T flirt back with her, so that was a form of a rejection on her part. however i know that you would have love to hear something like "my beautiful wife who i adore is getting dressed right now" but men many times don't think that far into things to give such an eloquent answer. i would step up the game some. don't act jealous or insecure by clinging to your husband or being rude, but if women do flirt with your husband in front of you, don't be scared to look them in the eye and make some kind of comment (possibly introducing yourself) assert your presence and let them know that your the queen bee. for instance when the neighbor woman came over and said that (don't be shy or feel awkward because its your man and that woman she be the one feeling awkward) i would have come up to the door and made some kind of comment like "isn't daddy looking nice for his wife today" and then leaned over and kissed him on the cheek and walked off. she would have caught the vibe loud and clear. women are very intuitive about those things. and i would talk to your husband a little bit more about it. don't overkill it though because men like a confident woman. but tell him that you see him as the protector of your family and relationship and if someone does anything to threaten or disrespect your family or relationship be it man or woman you would like to see him step up to the plate and demand respect in someway. tell him you find that attractive and that makes you feel safe. good luck, i know how frustrating it is.
OKAY YOU'RE ADDITIONAL DETAIL OF HIM CHEATING MAKES A WORLD OF DIFFERENCE IN HOW PEOPLE ARE GOING TO RESPOND. YOU'RE HUSBAND HAS CHEATED ON YOU TWICE...NOT ONCE, BUT TWICE! HE'S GOT PROBLEMS AND I WOULDN'T TRUST HIM EITHER. HE SHOULD BE GOING ABOVE AND BEYOND TO MAKE YOU FEEL SAFE SINCE HE HAS CHEATED ON YOU. IT SOUNDS LIKE HE DOESN'T HAVE ANY RESPECT FOR YOU. QUITE FRANKLY HE SOUNDS LIKE AN A**HOLE AND I WOULD START PACKING MY BAGS BEFORE HEART ACHE STRIKES AGAIN.
Reply:I think this is something you should talk to him about, ask him why he is not stopping this and it is making you very uncomfortable!
You have got to talk to him about this, if you do not, it will grow and fester inside of you and cause more tention in your marriage, and you do not want that.
Communication and honesty and trust are just a few things to base a happy marriage on.
Reply:OK.....my husband is also a great looking man.....EVERYBODY flirts with him. I am glad he is having fun in life. He doesn't flirt back, he has a great since of hum our and makes fun of it. When my friends play/flirt with him he makes them laugh. I am certain that when he goes to work that he gets hit on plenty, he works in a hospital. My point to you is that if a man has morals, is married to you and you have a solid relationship that there shouldn't be anything to worry about. I know that when a man flirts with me, I make fun. I Don't flirt back and that my husband has nothing to worry about. You say that you aren't good looking? I think probably that you are, do what you can to accent the good, fix yourself up, go to a salon, get the "treatment" makeup, hair, etc, go shopping for really flattering clothes, most any one who tries can be beautiful on the exterior as well as the interior. You will feel better. If money is an issue, find a special at the salon and splurge and thrift shops in upscale neighborhoods have some great clothes. Good luck....don't worry.
Reply:Okay, you need to take a step back and look at what a rare situation you have. He doesn't flirt back. You can't stop a woman from flirting your husband. If they're determined to make an idiot of themselves and moon over him what he says to them is just fine. As long as he doesn't flirt back, he's cutting them off. Do the same women keep flitring with him? You said strangers right?
If youre husband answers the question, or better yet doesn't answer their questions and completely ignores them, he's doing all he can politely and without causing a scene to stop them from flirting.
That answer to her was the best answer he could have given. SHort and to the point, with a clear message, "No she's getting dressed," meant, "No, i'm not interested. Stop." He is most definately NOT leading them on.
Okay. the key word in your last statement, is "single" and you're a woman. Respectable married men take flirting differently. If they ignore it, or don't say anything, and don't encourage it, they're not leading anyone on. They're just doing just that, ignoring it. Do the women usually stop, or keep going? Or is it a different woman everytime?
Try not to be so hard on your husband. I don't think he's leading anyone on. If he doesn't flirt back, he's not trying to do anything underhanded. It may be his way of telling other women to stop and he's expecting them to know better and back off. If they continue to the point where it's ridiculous and he still does nothing, at least he's doing nothing, instead of doing something bad.
Talk to him...gently about it, if the latter is true. Just ask him, if it would be ok if he just said, "Listen, I'm married." For you, to make you feel better, ask him to just do that one little thing. Tell him you believe him (and mean it), that he isn't doing anything wrong, just to make you feel better. If he loves you i'm sure he'll give it a try.
Good luck!
Reply:You are being too touchy about, he is good looking and other women are always going to flirt with him.
Seems he did good when telling the other woman "No she is getting dressed", that woman knows he's married so what should he have done.
Get over it, or get out. you are just going to drive yourself and him crazy with your insecurities.
You might try counseling
Reply:What is the man supposed to do, act like a little boy? He cannot control what these women do. He can only control himself. Even if he says he's married, women will flirt with him. It didn't stop your neighbor, and she KNOWS he's married! Women are going to make their comments, whether he's married or not. Most of this is harmless flirting. You take it to another level, when you throw it in your husband's face, as if he's responsible for it.
Your feelings are too easily hurt and it's going to effect your marriage, if you don't stop pressuring this man. You knew he was attractive when you married him. He's very good looking--remember? You said it yourself. Now, you need to trust his judgement and let him handle this. Your husband sounds like he's handling it just fine. When your neighbor flirted with him, he ignored her careless comment and simply said his wife was getting dressed. He's a man, not your child; so stop pressuring him!
Reply:Wifey, let me see if I can get you to see it through his eyes. Now, we're going to turn this around and saying it you getting alot of flirts from the guys that see you. A guy saying this to you....oh my, I know it will be a lovely day, heaven open up its doors and send an angel my way. Another guy would said this; I have seen the beauty in a sunrise and sunset, until I saw you there is nothing like the best. Now, I will take the chance that you like these compliments. Since you get these kind of flirt most of the time, its normal for you and you have no interest to response to them. but what if your husband heard these wouldn't he want to fight back? Would the thought of insecure enter your mind? Remember this wifey, guys enjoys compliment too! As long he didn't start it or act interest in the ladies. There is no need to be upset, for you is time to get back flirting with your husband.
Reply:WOW Gee I'm not sure your going to like my answer but here goes. Your husbands married NOT dead, hell I smile when a woman flirts with my husband, slip my arms through his and wink at her telling her something in a joking way of "Sorry he's all mine" or "Sorry I'm not sharing him" LOL. Don't try to make him feel guilty that he's a hottie. Be proud that he's YOUR'S you know. Now you have to remember that looking and flirting are just in peoples nature and alot of the time it keeps people knowing their still attractive. Don't you feel good when a man takes a look at you or says "damn she's hot" when you walk by? Hell I know I do , when a man openly flirts with me or looks at me my husband just smiles and puts his arm around me. This is your insecurity, he's obviously very much in love with YOU right? So try not to get your feelings hurt, dwelling on this will only lead to problems in your marriage. Right now it's just that you say it hurts your feelings BUT one day soon every time he walks out the door your going to think , well I wonder if a womans flirting and will he cheat on me. That's going to hurt your relationship big time. Good Luck hon a think of it this way, I'm sure you would rather have a man that women want to look at as opposed to a man no woman would look at!!!
Reply:Unfortunately what I'm hearing is your insecurities about your looks vs. your husband's. This is really about you, not him. If he's truly a good looking man, he's used to women flirting with him, it's probably been a part of his whole teen and adult life. But the thing to remember - and I know it's hard - is that out of all those women he could have, he chose YOU. Even if you think you are not attractive, HE does and that should make you feel fantastic! If he wasn't attracted to your outward appearance, then something inside shined through and he was attracted to that. Don't nag your husband about this- I'm not sure how long you've been married but again, it seems like you have to work on your self esteem. True, he could shoot down their advances and shout to the world "I'm married" but he probably doesn't feel the need to. And he probably does enjoy the attention to a point, but still, he married you. If he wanted those other women he wouldn't have married you. If this continues to bother you, try fixing yourself up, if you need more hair, buy some, if it's make up, get some. Need a boob job, get it. Seriously, I feel like a little extra help in the beauty department, when needed, never hurts anyone. Good luck.
Reply:When a woman comes up to him in public you look them in the eye and say why yes my husband is a good looking man don't ya think? Not only are you telling them he is married you tell them you know what they are thinking most will back off. As for your neighbor.I wouldn't trust her. She knows you and wants you to watch her son and flirt with your hubby. I would tell her sorry isn't going to happen.
Reply:I think you're wrong. Your husband is doing nothing wrong, and he is not angry at being flirted with. You are the one who is bothered by their behavior. Therefore, since you are the one who has the problem with it, it falls to you to do something about it.
That said, I don't even see why it matters to you. We men who are married to attractive women have to put up with it constantly, because, believe me, men flirt with good looking women a lot more than women flirt with good looking men. Men talk up my wife all the time, but she's with me, so I just smile and tell her it's no wonder to me they're attracted to her.
Reply:This is tough dear,most men like that and yes you're right it could go further.
I would write a letter to my husband and explain my feelings,I think it's okay let him know you're hurt and jealous.
I would also try to stop the other women ,by any way you can .
You see dear for some reason ladies like to flirt with other men especially cute ones.and they don't care about our feelings so why should you care about them,defend what's rightfully yours in every way you know and if he loved you he'll understand,it's not only his responsibility but yours too.
Reply:wrong...wrong....wrong.....your wrong about everything.....its your job to stop the flirting.....if he hasnt done it yet he never will...
Reply:Hi!
I could see why this would upset you. However, if he is not flirting with them, you really have no beef. If women come up to him while you are there, you need to address them. I would say, my baby sure is fine, huh? You have to trust that he loves you and that he is married to you so that is where he wants to be. The neighbor I would check. Especially if she wants you to watch her son, I would let her know that I heard her comment and that it was inappropriate. Good Luck to you!!
Reply:TRUST your husband!! If he truly feels that there is no issue then maybe it means way more to you then him!! He might not even realize that they are flirting with him.
Reply:He doesn't flirt back. That's the most important thing. I have much the same issue with my wife, in that she doesn't stop it, but at least she doesn't flirt back.
I think when you are with someone who is nice to other people, it seems rude to just bring someone up short like that. For one, it's very presumptious to think anything is intended by the flirting. As much as I'd like my wife to stop the guys short, that really is MY job, not hers. Just as this is YOUR job, not his. When women flirt with him in front of you, you can be polite, but you need to assert your presence. It sounds like your husband is loyal to you, so he'll take your lead if you do that.
Reply:I had a bf that was so good looking... same scenario as you described. I was very flattered by the other women's attention. Never thought anything else about it.
Reply:He is not responsible for other women - so when you say that he "lets them flirt with him" you are wrong. He has no control over other women's behaviour. And it sounds to me like he's doing exactly what he should be - not recirprocating. So what are you so upset about? Just because he doesn't feel a need to mention he's married doesn't mean he's leading them on. You need to get some self confidence and relax. Seriously..
Reply:he may be thinking he does not want to be mean to these lady, the neighbor I am speaking of mostly...which is more important, how you feel, or how these ladies feel...let him know this! obviously your feelings are more important...she does know he's married and she probably knows he won't stop her from flirting at the same time...I am sure he will speak up if he has to eventually...so she keeps doing it...until he does say something, and yes, one thing can lead to another...if he lets it happen...=(...she probably flirts because she also knows he is quite handsome...and knows you are just the regular plain jane...no offense...I am a jane too, lol! Just keep an eye on this lady, This applies to the neighbor...now, So, some of these ladies think he will leave his plain wife for them, these are the ladies who he only sees in public now and then...but, you see, he married you, not them...keep remembering that! I am sure he will remain faithful...but, perhaps you could step in when you are around and let them know you are displeased w/ their comments...! Say, "Hi, I am his wife...and smile and hold his hand =)".
Reply:Well sista, i know ur pain. But this REALLY works
My husband is really good looking too and i am not but thats just the point, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. you just need to realise it.
I felt insecure at first but then i tried a different strategy and it works !! when women look at your husband trying holding him and kissing him affectionately, make a display of it, that puts them off totally cos they know the man is taken. and this keeps the sparks flying too (lol). Seriously try it. you're good looking too, i mean if u can land a man as good looking as your husband then its a matter of your confidence and self esteem. Dress up, look and feel sexy, that way u wont feel concious about urself.
And pleeeese let the neighbour take care of her own kids, she made them, she can take care of them, she sounds like trouble. make sure she gets the message if not from your husband then from u.
Smother him with affection the next time she comes round and make excuses, not to take care of her kids.
u owe it to yourself !!!!
Reply:your husband is probably flattered with these other women flirting with him. he also probably thinks as long as he doesn't flirt back that it doesn't do any harm, even though it bothers you.
how often do you flirt w/ him? just b/c you are married doesn't mean that you can't flirt w/ him and chase him like b4 you guys were married!
Reply:get over it..he is married, not dead
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I flirt too much... :( I need serious help. I can flirt with anyone BUT my crush... HELP!!!?
I need to learn how NOT to flirt with people that I don't even know I'm flirting with. Am I some crazy nut-job or something cuz I am a flirt-maniac with anyone but "him." This is bad... VERY VERY bad. I need y'all to set me straight and tell me to STOP FLIRTING of how to stop flirting... I need to control myself!!!
HELP!!!
-Liz
I flirt too much... :( I need serious help. I can flirt with anyone BUT my crush... HELP!!!?
i know how you feel. i flirt with everyone too. but the thing is do you act on it? that right there is the difference between a flirt and someone who's easy.
i had the same problem with a guy i really liked. i would choke up and get all nervous around him but i could turn around and flirt with this other guy.
i think that is because when you like someone you are more conscious of his opinion. you're more aware of the fact that every move you make or word you that comes out of your mouth could make him either be more interested in you or run away. the trick is...swallow your fear and pride and anxiety and just go for it. that's what i did. had the best relationship for 8 months. and when that ended i met someone else and i just plunged in. you will never know until you try.
another trick is to not worry about what his opinion is so much. if you want to date him or want to flirt with him then what says you cant do those things. if he's not interested in you, the worst he can do is say no thanks and you can move on to something bigger and better.
on the flirting thing, it all depends on how badly you want to stop. when in a relationship and i find myself flirting what i'd do is where a rubber band around my wrist and snap myself once with it (nothing extremely painful just a little snap) and i would stop flirting or i would concentrate on my throbbin wrist. or you could just remove yourself from temptation. if you flirt with particular people then stop seeing those particular persons until you can control your flirty-ness. its all up to you and it all depends on how much you want it.
Reply:You really need to flirt with me since you have such a hard time not flirting....
HELP!!!
-Liz
I flirt too much... :( I need serious help. I can flirt with anyone BUT my crush... HELP!!!?
i know how you feel. i flirt with everyone too. but the thing is do you act on it? that right there is the difference between a flirt and someone who's easy.
i had the same problem with a guy i really liked. i would choke up and get all nervous around him but i could turn around and flirt with this other guy.
i think that is because when you like someone you are more conscious of his opinion. you're more aware of the fact that every move you make or word you that comes out of your mouth could make him either be more interested in you or run away. the trick is...swallow your fear and pride and anxiety and just go for it. that's what i did. had the best relationship for 8 months. and when that ended i met someone else and i just plunged in. you will never know until you try.
another trick is to not worry about what his opinion is so much. if you want to date him or want to flirt with him then what says you cant do those things. if he's not interested in you, the worst he can do is say no thanks and you can move on to something bigger and better.
on the flirting thing, it all depends on how badly you want to stop. when in a relationship and i find myself flirting what i'd do is where a rubber band around my wrist and snap myself once with it (nothing extremely painful just a little snap) and i would stop flirting or i would concentrate on my throbbin wrist. or you could just remove yourself from temptation. if you flirt with particular people then stop seeing those particular persons until you can control your flirty-ness. its all up to you and it all depends on how much you want it.
Reply:You really need to flirt with me since you have such a hard time not flirting....
How do women flirt if the guy is 13+ years younger?
I am 22yo. I am wondering something here:
If a woman is in her late 30's to mid-to-late 40's would she flirt with a guy my age(around 19-24yo)? Is this very common? Would women in this age range be flirting for fun, or because she is actually interested in him? Also, but probably most important here, how would she flirt, and what signs are most used in the flirting? Would it be strong and direct flirting or more passive flirting due the age difference and the fear of any embarisment or anything that may come from flirting with someone 13-16 years younger? Anything else anyone wants to add is cool with me too. I have heard that women will flirt, and seen websites on it, but wanted actual peoples viewpoint, as well as, I have heard confliting stories on how they flirt.
How do women flirt if the guy is 13+ years younger?
This is more common (and quieter) than you imagine. Know this: you'll have fun for a few weeks, then she'll undoubtedly find someone more age appropriate. Have fun while it lasts!
Reply:They will tease you and talk sweet to you.
Give you eye contacts that melt you.
Some touching when they talk to you.
Reply:The way you would with any other mature woman. It still works the same. This might be a good thing for you, she is at her peak of "powers" and might very well match your own. Have at it. Good Luck
Reply:No wemon of that age do not do that often i mena u get soem weird ladys soem times but other wise i think its just wierd
Reply:Most mature women will be far more direct than younger women. They are not as shy and they understand that a guy thinks with his p*nis. The term for an older woman cruising for young guys is a "cougar".
A mature woman is usually interseted in a long term relationship with a mature successful man. This means when she goes after a young guy it is for a shorter term physical thing.
Enjoy...
Reply:They're probably just joking around when they flirt w/ you, if you try to get all serious w/ it, it may not end up well... =/
Reply:These woman are called cougars! they flirt with younger men all the time to make themselves feel young again. Older men want younger women a lot so why can women not do the same. Normally the when older women are flirting with younger men they are very obvious about it and have a tendency to grab the guy inappropriately. To me i find it kind of desperate!
If a woman is in her late 30's to mid-to-late 40's would she flirt with a guy my age(around 19-24yo)? Is this very common? Would women in this age range be flirting for fun, or because she is actually interested in him? Also, but probably most important here, how would she flirt, and what signs are most used in the flirting? Would it be strong and direct flirting or more passive flirting due the age difference and the fear of any embarisment or anything that may come from flirting with someone 13-16 years younger? Anything else anyone wants to add is cool with me too. I have heard that women will flirt, and seen websites on it, but wanted actual peoples viewpoint, as well as, I have heard confliting stories on how they flirt.
How do women flirt if the guy is 13+ years younger?
This is more common (and quieter) than you imagine. Know this: you'll have fun for a few weeks, then she'll undoubtedly find someone more age appropriate. Have fun while it lasts!
Reply:They will tease you and talk sweet to you.
Give you eye contacts that melt you.
Some touching when they talk to you.
Reply:The way you would with any other mature woman. It still works the same. This might be a good thing for you, she is at her peak of "powers" and might very well match your own. Have at it. Good Luck
Reply:No wemon of that age do not do that often i mena u get soem weird ladys soem times but other wise i think its just wierd
Reply:Most mature women will be far more direct than younger women. They are not as shy and they understand that a guy thinks with his p*nis. The term for an older woman cruising for young guys is a "cougar".
A mature woman is usually interseted in a long term relationship with a mature successful man. This means when she goes after a young guy it is for a shorter term physical thing.
Enjoy...
Reply:They're probably just joking around when they flirt w/ you, if you try to get all serious w/ it, it may not end up well... =/
Reply:These woman are called cougars! they flirt with younger men all the time to make themselves feel young again. Older men want younger women a lot so why can women not do the same. Normally the when older women are flirting with younger men they are very obvious about it and have a tendency to grab the guy inappropriately. To me i find it kind of desperate!
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