Best way to flirt (note - married, no intention of anything more than flirting)?

What are some of the best non super obvious, non over the top ways to flirt, while at work?





I am married and have no intentions of anything other than flirting. I just want some attention, some friendly back and forth flirting.





The person I am thinking of is not my boss or subordinate. My workplace is very OK with flirting and office romance.





I just need some ideas as I have been married for a long time and plan to stay married. ( Please no do not flirt posts).

Best way to flirt (note - married, no intention of anything more than flirting)?
You're treading dangerous water. You may THINK that's all you will do, but trust someone who has seen it happen, it can and usually does lead to more. Best not to do it at all, or better yet, flirt with your husband. I bet he'd enjoy it and it would add spice to your marriage.
Reply:You're married. Best way to flirt is with the one you love and that's your wife. If you're not getting attention at home then talk to your wife about it. Gee, you going to be stuck in hard place if you continue with this senseless act you are doing.Why did you get married in the first place.Besides who wants to flirt with you a divorce lawyer when she finds out what you are doing.
Reply:you are an idiot for considering this - you send out sparks - eventually fire starts...work on getting the extra attention you crave from your husband - not your co-workers.
Reply:Just don't, it will only lead to more than "just flirting"
Reply:Why dont you ask your wife? It shouldnt cause any problems rite? since you said you have no intention of anything happening. im sure she'll be very helpful. :)
Reply:Bad idea...how would you feel if your wife was flirting with other men?
Reply:Flirting is completely harmless and an excellent way to feel attractive! Attention from the opposite sex is a very powerful thing, and will do nothing but make you feel more desirable. Direct that energy you receive from flirtatious banter to the relationship you share with your spouse.


I would suggest that you keep your flirting very casual -- just a simple compliment. Not only will flirting make you feel more attractive, it will make you more well-liked in the office.


Don't get me wrong, there's a huge difference between, "Nice butt!" and "Nice outfit!" I'd definitely go for the latter.


Just be super sweet! I'm from the South and, well, flirting's pretty much a way of life. Needless to say, I flirt with pretty much everyone even though I'm in a serious relationship.


There's this amazing book by Ronda Rich called "What Southern Women Know About Flirting." I'd definitely read it if I were you!
Reply:you are an idiot, flirting leadns to other situations and feelings. flirt with your wife! im sure she would love it. or maybe ask her for tips on flirting with girls at your work and see where that leads you, stop being so selfish. u sound like my ex.... he would always flirt with the girls at work yet nothing was intended till he got the attention he wanted and liked it and cheacted on me. dont be so scummy
Reply:here's an idea: it sounds like you are just out of practice. otherwise why would you be on here asking for tips? So practice on someone harmless at first. But who could that practice partner safely be? hmmmmmmmm, Eureka, I've got it~~~~Your spouse!!





Isn't that clever? you could practice flirting with your very own spouse you have been married to forever. Safe and acceptable. Maybe you might get attention from your spouse that way and not have to act like an idiot at the work place. (Note: "work" place not "flirt" place). Wouldn't it be really special to rekindle sparks with your spouse?





Think about it.
Reply:you posted something out of norms, then expect negative reaction. first of all, if you wanted attention in the workplace, why dont just do your job extra ordinarily well, perhaps the boss might notice how spectacular you are at your job and promote you..secondly, just bec flirting is acceptable in ur workplace, you have the green light to go as well... dear, you're married. if you're not, then it's ok. if you really plan on staying married, you wouldnt even think of posting this...you're just bored probably, so take a vacation with ur spouse, just the two of you, and rekindle the romance...


btw, why dont you let your husband read your post, dont tell him it's from u, then ask his opinion on this....i highly doubt it'll be ok with him, too
Reply:Why do you want to flirt? Ask yourself that. Because someone is going to take you up on it. Keep at it long enough and someone is going to figure you will be easy to get. And you will be got. Goodby, marriage.
Reply:this is a very dangerous thing to do when you are married and especially at work (no matter how ok they are with office romance).





I did the very same thing with a co worker and although we both said to each other it was all in good fun, it went too far one day.





It ended up being so awkward between he and I at work and it effected my performance as well. What made things worse is that he has been long time friends with our boss so what do you know, my boss found an excuse to get rid of me, and he got away scott free.
Reply:Flirting is stepping outside the marriage. Is this what you really want to do to your spouse? One thing leads to another, you know, and then you'll have a decision to make. It will be tough to choose and you may make the wrong decision. If I were you I'd not take this any further.
Reply:All you women hating on the man, note this is actually a female named Laura!





I love to make the nasty comments to men too, but this is a woman! She SHE SHE, needs to realize what she's doing is wrong. And girl, leave your husband if you think you need attention from other men in any fashion.





Just cause you said you didn't want those kinds of posts, doesn't negate our right to post them. Food for thought, and while you are chewing on it, if your husband would not consider you flirting with other men cheating, he needs some counseling as well.
Reply:Married or not I flirt all the time! I get flirts back but I have yet to have anyone act on it. Flirting can be very fun too! Try me some time! HA!
Reply:all you can do is start flirting, try light sarcasam. I flirt at work occasionly and my man is perfectly fine with it as i am when he flirts with his friends. there is a difference to when we flirt with each other which we also do frequently, at home and in public.





the other day i was at work ( sales assistaint) and a workmate came to my counter to buy a drink. My reply was thanks david your buying me a drink are you. his reply was um no you already have one. and besides yours is bigger than mine. I replied with careful david I think your mistaken mine cant be bigger than yours im a woman. then we both laughed said a few more things then he left.





when i flirt for fun i try and choose someone im not attracted to and that way its made clear its just for fun.





I guess what it comes down to is... will your husband know and will he be ok with it. if not then it is a form of cheating.
Reply:haven't you heard of the book "if you give a mouse a cookie"? after you flirt, you're gonna want that number, then you're gonna want to meet for lunch, then you're gonna be his lunch. I know I left out alot of other possibilities, but flirting can be a slippery slope.


Sounds like you're hot inbetween the legs, lol
Reply:if you want some attention then go to your wife, and tell her. Open up to her, and let her know how you feel. You are obviously not getting something you need out of your marriage, and you should start there and fix the problem, not make it worse.
Reply:Try flirting with your wife! Why are you such an attention hog? because everybody else is doing it, you want in on the action too? If you were my husband I would leave you alone to flirt as much as you could ever imagine.
Reply:complement, look in eyes, be you
Reply:if you really want to flirt just dont talk about sex. If they start trying to be with you just tell them, "hey I was just joking around!" But I have to admitt, it is kind of dumb to play with fire, if you care.
Reply:dont listen to most of these people on here. As long as u dont flirt to heavy u should be ok. If they hit u up just tell them u are married.
Reply:you are not honoring your husband, marriage or marriage vows if you do this.





emotional affairs are just as devastating as real affairs. flirting is not ok.
Reply:you just dont,is your name ,,,,,,.
Reply:Send note to self. I am an idiot for thinking I can flirt with no consequences. What are you working in a brothel ?