I am not very good at flirting with guys, anyu suggestions on how to do this, I am atracted to this guy, but how do you flirt without coming on to strong?
Flirt, how?
Flirty girls smile, tease %26amp; joke around quite a bit. Just don't overdo it to the point that you feel uncomfortable or not yourself.
Reply:Here are some flirting tips from How to Make Anyone Fall In Love With You:
1.Smile broadly.
2. Throw him darting glances.
3. Look straight at him and flip your hair.
4.Look at him, look away, toss your head and then look back,
5.Lick your lips and parade close to him with exaggerated hip movement.
6.Sticky eyes-look him in the eyes,drag your eyes away from his as if they have been stuck with warm toffee.
7.Let your eyes slide down the nose to the lips, caress the lips with your eyes for a moment and then slowly venture south to the neck.
8. Guys like it when you go "Uuuummmm" or "Oooohhhh". Don't know why, they just do.
9. Be friendly and smiley, BUT play hard to get.
10. You can never flatter guys too much, they'll never know you are being ironic.
11. Never use hints with guys as they just don't get it.
12. Don't give up, be cheerful but realistic.
13. Believe in yourself and think you're "the bees knees" and then other people (guys) will think so too.
Hope these help!
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Reply:idk.
Reply:just laugh at some of his jokes...and brush his arm occasionally... dont like slap him when you do this though, this girl that i know from work slaps guys... its funny to watch but i mean they dont appreaciate it... youll do fine
Reply:1) Be Open - Approach everyone you meet with a smile. Let your face show that you're interested in what people are saying. Let your natural enthusiasm shine through. Look people in the face and show them you are happy to meet them.
2) Be Honest - Nobody likes a phony. People can spot insincere praise and faked interest right away. Just being yourself is your best bet for flirting success. If you are open to others, they will be able to sense it.
3) Be Spontaneous - Don't think too hard about what you're going to say - just really listen to what the other person is saying and let yourself respond naturally. Don't worry about what might happen next - live for the moment! You might not get another chance to talk to the person! So go for it!
4) Smile - You can't hear this often enough! A smile makes you look friendly, confident and approachable. People smile at people who smile! So smile! It's contagious!
5) Make Eye Contact - When talking to a guy, make sure you have good eye contact. You don't have to stare! But don't look all around the room, either, or he'll think you're looking for someone more interesting to hang out with. Let him know with your eyes that he is the person you would most like to be talking to.
6) Listen- You have two ears and one mouth because you should listen twice as much as you speak! Listening is a true art, and the best conversationalists all have great listening skills in common. Your flirting partner will be drawn to you if you master this simple skill. Everyone loves to be listened to.
7) Ask Questions - Show you are interested in what a guy is saying by asking for more details. If he says he plays baseball, ask what position. If he mentions a movie he saw, ask him to tell you more about the story. You get the picture! Asking questions proves you have been listening, and sends the message that you find him interesting. Guys find this very flattering (wouldn't you?).
8) Use Innocent Touch - When talking to a guy, lightly touch his arm when you're making a point or laughing at something he has said. Don't overdo it, just a few times in a conversation is enough to send the message that you like him. If you have chemistry with a guy, he'll figure it out fast just from the touch of your fingertips.
9) Don't Argue - Think Jerry Seinfeld and Elaine Benes, not Mr. And Mrs. Kostanza. Playful banter is fine - it shows off your sense of humor and can help create a bond with a guy you're talking to. But don't try to show off by insisting on your point, or you'll be remembered as "don't date" material.
10) Be Confident - People are drawn to other people who have confidence. Confidence radiates like the sun - others can sense when you have it. It's all about walking with your head held high and knowing that if a guy doesn't respond to your flirting, it's his loss, not yours. Know you are a catch and you'll send that signal to others.
11) Compliment Him - A sincere compliment can go a long way toward making a guy feel good around you. Notice the word "sincere" - don't spread on the flattery like butter, or he'll think you're all talk, or worse, that you say the same thing to everyone. Pick something about him that you can compliment sincerely - try to pick something that's not the most obvious, such as his nice skin or his long eyelashes. These kinds of compliments are the best, because the guy being complimented knows you've really noticed him.
12) Take Compliments Gracefully - How you take a compliment sends a strong signal to guys. The best response is always a simple "Thank you." Don't play yourself down ("Oh no, my hair looks terrible " or "It's not my shirt, I borrowed it"), which only sends the message that you're not worth his time. On the other hand, don't be conceited ("I know, I am really pretty!"), or you'll end up alone admiring your own self.
13) Speak Softly - A neat trick for getting up close with a guy you like is to speak to him quietly, so he'll have to lean into you to listen.
14) Set Yourself Apart - Of course it's much easier to approach a guy when you're surrounded and protected by your girlfriends, but most guys get nervous in front of an audience. Even if you are out with a friend, separate yourself every once and a while to approach a guy you like and say hi, or just to walk past him. A guy might like you but not want to interrupt you and your friend's gab session.
15) Be Gentle - Treat guys gently and other guys will notice you. If you're at a party or a dance and someone you're not interested in approaches you and flirts - be nice. Let him down easy, instead of blowing him out of the water, laughing or otherwise embarrassing him. You could even help him get talking to one of your friends, who might be more interested in him. Trust us, the other guys - including the ones you like - are watching to see what you do. If you make this guy look like a jerk for approaching you, the others will be too intimidated to bother. (The exception: guys who act like jerks or make lewd sexual remarks to you. In this case, don't hesitate to tell the guy you're not interested, period, and you'd appreciate if he'd stay away from you forever).
16) Use Your Friends' Eyes - Get a friend to watch while you walk past a group of guys, then fill you in later on who checked you out. (Don't forget to return the favor!)
17) The Best Line is "Hello" - Don't try to come up with a super-clever plan for starting a conversation. The opening line that works best is still "Hello." After that, let the conversation flow naturally - tell him your name, talk about the surroundings, ask him a question, give a sincere compliment.
18) Have Fun - Everyone likes being around someone who doesn't take life too seriously. Be playful and light-hearted. Don't cover your mouth when you laugh. Let everyone see you enjoy having a good time!
19) Drop Hints - Give your crush some clues that you like him. There are many ways to do this. In a conversation with your crush, mention casually that you are not going out with anyone. Mention places you miss going to or a movie you really want to see. Talk about things you know both of you would like doing. The goal is to let your crush know that if they ask you out, you are available. (Don't be desperate though - keep it casual). By doing this, you also let him know what kinds of places you would enjoy going on a date (just in case he was wondering!).
20) Stay in His Line of Sight - Hang out where your crush does. Find ways to spend more time near him during school, after classes or after school. Join clubs he belongs to. Make friends with his sister. The more chances you make for him to notice you, the more likely he will. You'll also get more chances to flirt. Plus - bonus - he'll figure you guys have a lot in common if you're always hanging out in the same places
21) Be Sweet - Go out of your way to find ways to be nice to the guy you like. Make room for him at your lunch table if the cafeteria is crowded. Help him with homework. If he's alone, get him to join you and your friends so he has company. Show him what a sweet, caring girl you are!
22) Don't Act Nervous - Don't let fear of rejection or bad experiences from the past make you paranoid about a conversation that's happening in the present. Try to relax and focus only on the person you are talking to. Remember that he is probably more nervous than you! If you have to, fake being perfectly at ease and it will turn into reality.
23) Don't Complain - Negativity is the enemy of flirting. When talking to your crush, don't whine about what's wrong with your life, how bad you look or how disappointed you are that you didn't make the school play. Instead, focus on something positive - what a nice day it is, how excited you are about an upcoming event, how glad you are that you two finally got a chance to talk. A positive attitude from you gives him the "welcome" sign - it lets him know that you're upbeat and happy around him, a big compliment. Don't get all giggly and silly, but it's nice to let a guy know that you find talking to him fun. He'll get an ego boost and he'll associate talking to you with a feel-good experience (so he'll come back for more!).
24) Don't Gossip - If you engage in gossip with a guy you like, you might leave the unfortunate impression that you gossip about everyone - including him. He's not going to open up to you if he thinks you're the kind of girl who'll be blabbing everything he says to the next person you talk to. In fact, guys often complain that girls gossip too much - it's a real turn-off for them. Have only nice things to say about others, and your crush will be impressed by your positive, friendly attitude.
25) Don't Take Flirting Too Seriously - The best flirts are girls who can do it without expecting anything to come of it. Guys love flirting with girls who seem like they could get anyone they want. Develop that attitude! Try to think of flirting as an enjoyable activity in itself, without always worrying about the final result. It's kind of like shopping - you can have fun cruising the mall and trying on clothes, even if you don't end up buying anything. Of course, your ultimate goal is to score "the perfect outfit" - but don't be in a rush, or you'll scare off guys by seeming desperate. Practice flirting with guys you aren't that interested in, and soon you'll be able to flirt with the guy you adore and still seem casual.
26) Laugh at His Jokes - If a guy is trying to make you laugh, it's a good sign that he might be interested in you. Don't forget to appreciate his effort! Don't be insincere and laugh at everything he says, or else he'll think you're a phony, or just brainless. Just don't be shy about laughing. If you naturally see the humor in his jokes, he'll enjoy being around you.
27) Play With Your Hair - Touching your hair while talking to a guy sends him the subconscious message that you're attracted to him - and you don't have to say a word. Twirl a piece of hair around your finger while talking to your crush, or pause every few minutes to slowly sweep your hair back off your face.
28) Leave Him Wanting More - The first few times you talk to a guy, be the first person to end the conversation. When you feel like it might be winding up, or after a few minutes of one-on-one talk, break away by smiling and saying "It was nice talking to you. I have to go meet up with (your friend's name) now." This makes you seem in demand, and not desperate to talk to him. Bonus: if you're a bit nervous about flirting with him, it takes the pressure off you to keep it going.
29) Don't Wait for Him to Flirt First - Teenaged guys are notoriously shy about talking to girls, even girls they like! Make the first move. Chances are, he'll appreciate not having to move first and be flattered that you want to talk to him. 95% of teen guys says they love it when a girl makes the first move.
30) Don't Be a Sleaze - A sure way to be a flirting flop is to act overly sexual by talking dirty or hinting at your vast experience with guys. Guys tend to divide girls into two categories - easy to get, and hard to get. Guess which ones they like more? If you seem ready for too much too soon, he'll think you are like that with everyone - not the impression you want to send the guy of your dreams. Be a little mysterious - flirt, show your interest by being friendly, but don't be overly obvious or offer more than you intend to give.
31) Don't Dwell on Your Performance - If you worry too much about what you're saying and how you're saying it, you'll seem distracted and not very interested in the person you're talking to. Instead of being wrapped up in yourself, focus your attention on the guy who's talking to you. Don't think ahead to what you're going to say next! Really listen to what he is saying and respond with thoughtful answers that show you've been listening.
32) Look, Look Away, Look Again - This is a flirty move that guys say they pick up strongly as a signal you're up for conversation with them. Throw a glance at a guy who interests you. Then, as soon as he turns to meet your look, immediately lower your eyes. Wait a second and then look back up at him and smile sweetly. He'll get the message!
33) Keep Your Body Language "Open" - Don't let your body language send signals you don't mean. Crossing your arms in front of you, tapping your foot, looking at your nails and looking over his shoulder - these are all things that guys interpret as meaning you're unapproachable, cold or bored of talking to them. Avoid sending the wrong signal by cutting out all fidgeting, nervous glances away and defensive postures (crossing the arms, leaning or facing away from him).
34) Be Glad to Meet Him - When you're introduced to a cute guy (at school, at church, at a party, at the mall), always repeat his name and ask him a question. (Example: "It's nice to meet you, Michael. Don't you sit at the back of my English class?")
35) "Leave" a Good Impression - When you're leaving a party or a group of people where you met a new guy, take a moment to go over and tell him you enjoyed meeting him. If you can't remember his name, use that as a reason to talk to him again before you leave!
36) Ask Open-Ended Questions - Try to avoid asking "yes/no" questions in conversations with guys. If they're nervous or not great at small talk, you'll end up with a one-word answer, and a stalled conversation. Instead, ask "open-ended" questions that begin with "What do you think about.." or "How did you feel when.." that encourage him to give you more detailed answers.
37) Don't Freak Over Pauses in Conversation - Everyone, no matter how confident they seem, gets nervous sometimes in social situations. Cut them - and yourself - some slack. Don't flip out if conversation seems awkward at first, especially if you don't even know each other that well. Just remember to keep up eye contact, smile and ask questions about him you really want to know. If you get too nervous to continue, excuse yourself and leave the flirting to another time when you're feeling more assured.
38) Check Your Voice - Are you talking at the speed of light, or droning on like a dental drill? A guy will get an opinion about whether you're interested from the tone of your voice. So keep it light and friendly, and don't talk super-fast.
39) Ask Him What He Enjoys Doing - Guys are flattered when you seem interested in them, and all people enjoy talking about themselves. Plus, while you and your girlfriends talk about your emotions, guys are much more "active" oriented. Asking a guy what he enjoys doing in his life will help you find out more about what makes him tick.
40) Don't Fake It - If a guy asks you questions about yourself (a sure sign he's interested, by the way!), don't come up with answers you think he wants to hear. There's no point playing a role when he'll just end up finding out later. Be proud of who you are and what you like doing.
41) Keep Your Answers Brief - It's nice when a guy asks you about yourself, so don't reward him by spending an hour going through the story of your life.You want to act interested and interesting, not like you've been waiting all your life for someone to ask you questions!
42) Twirl Something - From drinking straws to pencils to a necklace, twirling or fiddling with something shows you're a little nervous and excited, without making you seem twitchy. This is important for making a guy feel more comfortable with you, and less like a target. The movement also catches his eye and helps to hold his attention on you.
43) Express Interest - Show you're interested in something he does that he takes pride in - fixing up his car, a sport he plays, volunteer work he does, whatever. Do this by asking questions about it and paying attention to him when he answers. Don't let you eyes wander away when he's talking, or he'll assume you're bored and want to leave.
44) Use Your Surroundings - If walking up to a strange guy and saying "hello" seems like Mission Impossible, use your surroundings to give you an opening line that's normal, not cheesy. In a fast food place, ask the cute guy in line if he's tried a certain food (if it's any good), or ask him what's the best thing to order there. At a club, ask him if he knows who the singer is of a song that's playing, or ask him if it's always so crowded
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