Monday, April 12, 2010

My husband is biggest flirt!! Should i do the same ?

i am married and has two children. My husband is drunked and flirts with women all time and insults me. I am feeling humilated and wants to flirt too more than him to hurt him and bring fun to my life. But i am shy but naughty inside and feeling like flirting with married matured men now. Is that ok ? I can fool him if other man be friendly with him as his one friend flirts with me but he is not aware of it and also dont mind if i stay with her. Shall i enjoy my life the way i like ?

My husband is biggest flirt!! Should i do the same ?
What all I can make out after going through all your asked questions %26amp; answered ones in this forum that your matrimonial life is more of compromise between you %26amp; your husband rather then based on natural love %26amp; affection for each other. After more then 17 years of married life you find your husband more interested in other women sexually although without breaking your matrimonial home for may be sake of your children. But now you yourself getting frustrated want to indulge in extra-marital sexual affairs/relationship, but are not sure of its consequences. There exist a communication gap between both of you where your both are not coming out openly to each other regarding your sexual preferences, although your husband is more bold %26amp; had already expressed it but you are still inhabited towards all this. Socially, morally %26amp; to certain extend legally all this matter of extra-marital sexual affairs/relationship is wrong as this gives a bad example to our own children who see us as their 'Hero' %26amp; otherwise makes us a laughing stock for others. You have been tolerating all such nuisance created by your husband, just thinking about your children %26amp; never wanted to break this matrimonial home by dissolving this marriage. Now even for you all this is enough to tolerate %26amp; you want freedom from this bounded life as a second class housewife hence you have only two options i.e. either to dissolve this marriage or indulge in all sort of extra-marital affairs/relationship as your husband does to fulfill your frustration. The dissolution of marriage you don't want for the sake of your children %26amp; so the second option is one which you want to get involved. My suggestion is to give a second thought to this whole issue as a mature lady which you are at this age, considering the bad effect all this can have on your children who when are mature enough will be not only hating their father for his loose character but even you for the same reason. However, your children will never be blaming you for dissolution of marriage as they will understand the character of their father was the ground for all this. Few minutes of sexual satisfaction can spoil the life completly; think this phrase before you step out of your limits.
Reply:hye,dont spoil ur life for the man who doesnt care for ur emotions and insults u all the time.and dont choose tit for tat.


by doing this u will spoil ur own life.if u will flert with some other person u will spoil his life and his family as someone else has done to u.


and if u have any self respect leave the person who dont deservs to be ur husband.
Reply:If he is humiliating you, I doubt that he's flirting. He's probably looking for a date. THAT is not flirting. As for flirting with older, married men, I don't mind, as long as I don't catch you flirting with mine. I would snatch you bald-headed in 2 seconds flat. Better pick on somebody your own size, little lady.
Reply:No..dn't do..that will make u same as him...two "wrongs" dn't make "right"





talk to hijm..tell to parents of both side..





else kick him..beat him...





if he beat u back,call cop..
Reply:No - Keep your dignity!!
Reply:yes, you should ......u deserve it........but be careful maybe you break ur marriage
Reply:-Instead of bringing yourself to his level and becoming what you despise the most, I would do some serious soul searching, if I were you. When a man or a woman come to the point of having to take such drastic measures to get there spouses attention,something is seriously wrong. Talk to him..tell him how you feel. As far as the drinking and being ugly to you in front of your children, that's abuse! Is this what you want for them? Is this what you want for you? Will he change? If you've answered no to those three questions....It's time to move on down the road, he ain't worth it!
Reply:Your husband has lost respect for you and your marriage.


You should start to keep tract of all of his actions, when he is drinking and when flirting. It might come in handy when you take him to court. First take care of your problem, (your husband ). Don't start any problems with other married couples.You can aways start, a new life, so start moving and don't let your self be a punching bag.
Reply:Another reason to never get married.No respect.
Reply:I think that would be a silly game to play.





Have you tried talking to him about his behavior and how it makes you feel also ask him how he would feel if you behaved like that.





BTW some women will have you for flirting with their man.
Reply:I think you should talk to him, and if he won't understand then try and make him jealous by flirting buh don't cheat or anything just give him a taste of his own medicine
Reply:two wrongs does not make a right, and the bible says dont pay evil with evil.


talk to him about how you feel and give him ultimatum to either change or you leave.
Reply:no never..
Reply:Dump Him And Is Services Get Involved Just Say Hes Got A Drinking Problem. Thats All You Have Got To Say That Way You Will Be Able To Get And Order On Him Or A Restriction
Reply:Just Divorce him he's not a kind of husband no not any more


enough is enough ! JUST DO IT ASAP ! ! !
Reply:Flirting is an excuse. It sounds like you picked a real winner of a guy.
Reply:D/MANISHA





All men and women flirt but only few will admit. From what u mentioned is that u already flirting with one of his friends and it seems he does not mind u being with him. My advice is - dont go for kicking him or quitting this marriage provided you are too rich and independent. Just continue with ur flirting with his friend and keep it to flirting and feel good stage. once u do it then better sense will prevail and u wl grow out of it. So says 'TROUBLESHOOTERKILLROY": sometimes it is better to yield to the dangers of passion and the unknowns to get sanity back. Let me know if this works to my yahoo messenger id captgnvr
Reply:Yeah... you can do 'tit-for-tat' business here. There are two life, your children, depending on you. If he is doing like that its your duty to put him into back into the track. If you too flirt then it means you and he have no difference. Everything has its own limit and his this activity will come to an end soon.





You cannot shave you entire head for the reason that you found one white hair. Likewise, you cannot spoil your entire family and your family prestige and much more for the simple reason that your husband is a flirt.





Plan something so that he can understand the value of a family. If you want you can get a male, who is your close friend or relative, whom you believe and act with him as if you r flirting with him infront of his eyes.... so that he can understand the pain u had and repent..... likewise plan something to counter-attack him like this dear... God bless you.
Reply:manisha dont do that..u write that u have two children,so take care of them.love them.try 2 give hapines to ur childrens..u are not a singel women of this world who is facing this kind of problem.dont think about diveros.just take care of ur helth and keep ur chratcher neet and cleen.one day u will be the winner...i am choosen ur answer as the best answer.thanks 4 giving me right advise..
Reply:manisha,u have to look after 2 kids,if u too start enjoying ur life,what will ur kids do?they too will think ways of enjoying like u both.
Reply:yes


it is ur life enjoy it the way u like , if u r husband dont care of ur feeling then u should flirt with him, enjoy wit other guys..





all the best
Reply:ROSHANI IS CORRECT
Reply:what will be the difference in you %26amp; your husband..if you do the same thing...i dont understand you are married to him.you should not take his flirting with other womens so lightly..you never askeed yourself or him why does he do sooo.. and you also want to do the same.





do you love him, and if yes than why do you need other man, you can be naughty with your own husband.





you are making fool of your self behaving like a girlfriend not wife.talk to him and pls answer me what happen further.
Reply:He is hurting you and your marriage so why would you want to do the same and hurt other innocent women? Flirting is a variation of cheating.
Reply:I say you forget about this "payback" business.





you're married with two kids-you should be more mature than that.





normally, I'd say to stay with him because of your kids, but getting drunk and insulting you doesn't sound like the kind of relationship you need, and your kids need to see.


(you guys are what they will base marriage on)





try and get him cleaned up, but if nothing helps, or he doesn't want to get his sh*t together, then leave him.
Reply:its time to start enjoying yourself, it doesn't matter what your hubby does. you clearly are a very naughty girl (ok maybe deep inside but its there ok)


life is short hurry up and take hold of it with both hands before its to late,bring out that naughty side my wife has and I've never loved her more (and her friends!!) good luck and i hope you find your true self


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