I flirt a lot but I don't want my boyfriend to?

I flirt a lot when I dont even realize it but when my bf flirts with other girls that are waaaaaaaaaaay prettier than me I get pissed. Like so pissed if I see him talking to her I'll cry....and when I picture them walking down the hall my mind goes blank and I'll start crying





P.s don't tell me I need a therapist cuz I already have one, and please don't leave rude comments. I'm looking for advice here.

I flirt a lot but I don't want my boyfriend to?
Do unto others as you would like them to do to you! a golden rule to live by. I think most people like attention in a good way,,give and take. If you enjoy flirting ,,it's ok and normal but realize it is also from him...If it bothers you that much..tell him you understand it is normal for most to flirt,and that you get upset and can;t help it..(Which is somewhat a show of insecurity though)..Ask him nicely if he wouldn't flirt while you are around to see it going on...IT IS NORMAL and I know many people that still do it even after marriage...I think it is harmless but it can lead to trouble..be careful...GOOD LUCK! You sound young,,,take it easy and slow,,you have alot of time to learn about little things and Big things in relationships
Reply:Sounds like you're being hypocritical. Report It

Reply:well i think u should tell him but also tell him that u flirt without nouing that ur flirting!i think he MIGHT UNDERSTAND! Report It

Reply:Wow ,,,, you're a mess





I think that this all is a matter of low self esteem, exercise and feel better about yourself and all these thoughts and your worthless therapist will go away
Reply:um, be real - you know you are flirting - it isn't something you "don't know" you are doing....you crave attention -





quite possibly you aren't mature enough to be in a relationship - you have to get your head on straight and get some self esteem and self respect.





Why are you asking this here and not addressing it with your therapist?
Reply:well if he really needed a better girl friend he would have already left you...so in that case he still cares about you....just dont flirt with guys...hopefully he doesnt see you doing it..
Reply:then heres a idea.........dont flirt with other guys and say to you bf ok ill stop if you will
Reply:I think you should lighten up becuase you flirt and don't realize it maybe he dosen't realize it either so talk to him or break-up with him...
Reply:Sounds like what's good for the goose isn't good for the gander. Flirting is fine...it's the actions that get people hurt/in trouble. Let up on him, or find some one who isn't attractive and girls won't flirt with. Or you could knock off the flirting you do? It's only fair...
Reply:HAVE FUN ..ALL PART OF GROWING UP.
Reply:hmmm....you should stop flirting. You are probably doing it so you feel better about yourself...and justify it by thinking 'he's doing it, so why shouldnt you'. He most likely does not think the girls are way prettier than you, he clearly is attracted to you if he is your BF. Stop beating yourself up and stop flirting. If he knows you are respecting the relationship then he is more likely to as well.
Reply:Well, what is good for the goose is good for the gander so to speak. I think you probably both need to work on trust, flirting is natural and being in a serious relationship doesn't mean that you won't notice attractive people. The key is to be aware of what you are doing and not to push things farther than they should be.





Also, obviously the over reacting is not going to help you out in your relationship. While I understand your reaction, you can probably see that it is not a good way to react to him flirting a bit with another girl. Unfortunately, it is far easier to SAY to change than it is to do, but just try to give yourself some space from the emotions. Try to calm yourself down and wait a couple minutes before blowing your top, you may find that you are able to rein in the emotions and respond to it more appropriately.





But this won't happen over night, you should appologize to him when you do something like this and try to work on it as a couple.
Reply:he probably is just flirting wiht these girls becuz you are flirting with other guys. so he knows that it bothers you so he baisically is just doing it to get you mad. get back at you kinda thing. but i struggle with that all the time. me nd my bf dont go tot he same school. nd i kno he has alot of other FRIENDS that are girls that are way prettier that me. but the thing that you have to remember is that he chose YOU. not them. he is goign out with YOU. not them. so just relax. as long as you kno he is faithful nd wud never do anything serious then ur fine. but i wud advise you to try stop flirting with other guys. cuz that probaly why he is doing it.
Reply:you have to grow up, plain and simple.





you have to be prepared to own up to your flirtatious ways, and start setting a better example. If you dont like him doing it, then why is it okay for you to do it??





Also.. when you flirt... do you do it to get something out of it.. or just some attention? The both of you probably dont flirt to make trouble... you just have low self esteem. When you flirt, and get flirted with, you feel attractive, wanted, pretty.. and so on. Just find other ways to make yourself feel like that. Have your boyfriend help. its his job anyways. lol
Reply:I THINK U SHOULDNT BE FLIRTING IF U DONT WANT HIM TO FLIRT WITH OTHER GIRLS.
Reply:well i used to be the same way. and when i used to see mine with a girl i would get a weird feeling in my stomach but i soon got over it. it may take a while but you should talk to him about it tell him you are worried. tell him how you feel. that may be heard but you should be comfortable enough to do that. i talk to mine and than i got over it and learned that he loves me and no one alts. don't feel like there is something wrong with you cuz it happens to the best of us and if he flirts with other people on purpose than maby u should tell him to stop if he doesn't maby he is not the one for you.
Reply:"Ever heard of, 'I can play like that, too'?"
Reply:I understand what you are saying.I flirt a lot too.My boyfriend doesn't flirt but he does stare at girls way too much.What I tried is when me and him are out in public I am hugged up on him.I make sure girls know he is with me.I also make sure I look fly so that men could wan't me and he would get jealous.It works for me.It keeps your man interseted when you look fly!!!
Reply:I think the answer to this is fairly obvious... if you dont want him doing it, then you most certainly cant do it. That is being too hypocritical.
Reply:well, to be honest can you blame him? Is it right for you to do it but he can't? he probably feels the same about what you're doing.
Reply:Well he sees you flirting so of course he's going to do the same!


You now are in a relationship, so you have to respect that, why do you have to flirt with guys when you have a bf?? And if it's in your nature, well change it, you yourself are saying that it makes you angry, and guess also hurt, when you see him flirt with other girls ..... both of you should have respect for each other if you want your relationship to work.
Reply:i think you should stop just stop flirting.


because he might be flirtng because you are.


talk to him about it.
Reply:My bf flirts a lot and he doesnt realize it. i do too. sometimes worse then him. but weve talked about it numerous times and both of us know we want to be with each other. its hard to ignore it, but if you see him flirting walk up to him and kiss his cheek or something. i do that all the time when i see my bf with another girl, or ill randomly surprise him at work. hes a private person so he doesnt like to broadcast his personal life, but when i go see him he shows me off! just take some time and talk to him. let him know how badly it upsets you.
Reply:First you need to start trusting him, then you need to start telling your bf that you dont like when he flirts and you yourself need to stop flirting as well. If you do it then it is ok for him to do it. Dont be a hypocrite. When you are young and in highschool relationships can be hard and pointless so maybe you should just start focusing on yourself and pay less attention to him, chances are he will start craving your attention and start focusing on you and not other girls. Bottom line just start to relax and go with the flow.
Reply:lol, poor girl, dont wry, im like that, i chill wit a lotta girls, and my gfs sorta gotten used to it, but evry1 says im mad flirtatious, idc, its just me, so if he aint cool wit it, tell him 2 grow up, and if he wanna hold on 2 ya, tell him 2 give it a rest, but then u gonna also hav 2
Reply:What, it's ok for you to do it.........but not him, that's a little one-sided don't you think.
Reply:kill your self
Reply:well..if you dont like your boyfriend to flirt then maybe you first must stop flirting....maybe he just thought it wasnt fair that you can flirt and he cant..i dunno...sorry i wasnt of much help. my x used to flirt alot too but i didnt flirt with other girls..good luck