When i flirt with gils i get really nervous....?

i am generall shy around girls i'm attracted to, but when it comes to flirting with girls, i get REALLY nervous. i'm pretty sure the reason is because when i flirt, i know i am not welcome, because i'm not cute. so a feel like i am doing something i shouldn't be doing. how do i get over this feeling? i am not good lookng nor am i ever going to be and i know that flirting is unwelcome if the guy is not cute looking. so it seems perfectly logical to feel this way.

When i flirt with gils i get really nervous....?
Ok. There is more to being attractive than your looks. Looks is the package that is out there and gets the quick once over. You can be other things like intelligent and funny but you have to have some time with someone to reveal that to them. Damn the nervousness and make an effort. If nothing else, the practice will make you more comfortable with the process.


Now, you must think that 30 year old women should appreciate the attention of a 19 year-old. They might be amused by it or insulted by it but they won't be grateful for it. These women think more of themselves than you do as long as you assume things because of age. You are focusing on all the wrong things: physical beauty and age are nothing compared to depth of soul and character. Get some practice, weigh your experience and grow in wisdom. Good luck.


C. :)
Reply:don't try to flirt, just talk to people. and one day you'll realize that they might flirt with you. this should all happen after your testes descend from your body.
Reply:Get the focus off you and onto them.
Reply:Maybe part of the problem is the age group you are flirting with. Most women who are 30 + years old generally really aren't interested in advances from a guy who's 19. The age difference is too big. A 19 year old is still a teenager, and no matter how mature you think you are for your age, women 30 and older aren't going to see you as a potential prospect. It's a rare case when it happens. Yes, it's flattering for a 19 year old to be interested in a much older woman, but that's generally not enough to get a woman that old to allow it to go any further than that. Maybe you could focus more on girls your own age? And practice building friendships? More often than not, women would be more open to communicating with someone who sees them as a friend first. Not all women want to be "just flirted with." It makes us feel like we're being objectified..like all he wants is sex. Women want to be valued. They want to feel like he's interested in them for reasons that are more than just sexual. Sure there are exceptions, but in general, most relationships begin with friendship, and if the friendship is genuine, sometimes it leads to something more. When you take sex out of the equation, I think you'll find you'll be less nervous...and women will be more open to you. Don't worry about sex and attraction...it will come when it's the right time and with the right person. You're young...and eager...and that's completely normal..but it's something women can sense...and that makes women as nervous as it makes you.
Reply:don't say your ugly be happy of what god gave you no one is perfect if you want a girl get a girl who like you for who you are not for look
Reply:Honestly, many people pick up on lack of confidence, and this is what some may find unwelcoming, since it is sometimes associated with neediness. Both men and women can find this attitude unattractive, more than physical features.





If flirting is natural for you, that's ok, but you don't always have to flirt initially, can start by making a comment, as you converse, observe her body language, facial expressions and words, keeping your side light, relatable and peppered with some humour. Many women love to laugh, so a little humour can get our attention, which may then open the door for some light and fun flirting.


I won't say that this is the best way to approach all women (as each is different), but for myself and most of my girlfriends, it is inviting, not coming on too strong or clingy...shyness is attractive to some people, yet feeling a little more secure, natural and comfortable with what you say and do shows, and may provide some balance.


Looks are secondary for many women, but personality and expressions make a lasting impression. :-)
Reply:Yea that sux.....


Grow a pair dude. Seriously they are women not wolves. Trust me, just talk to them. You might be pleasantly surprised.
Reply:well..... you can just try and be funny, girls like that, just forget that you're "ugly", and everything will og just fine!!! ^_^!
Reply:Hero we are human beings. Why don't you try thinking of girls like that and just talk to us normally?





Forget about your looks. You just keep saying that and no matter what everyone here saying you keep being fixed on that you are not cute. I think it is unhealthy and prevents you from seeing things as they are and actually doing something positive for changing your style and having a better self-esteem. I really do.





To answer your question, don't flirt, talk. Focus on making conversation and being an enjoyable person to talk to. Do that before anything else. Believe me some guys Are good at flirting (they had a flair and practise) and they may even make it look easy.





Clearly you don't have it like that. Yuo know what? You don't need to worry about it. Many men are not the flirting type and they can and do have relationships with women. How? Because they have the confidence in themselves to BE themselves.





Best wishes.