How am i supposed to flirt?

okay so here's my problem. i have the great ability to get really close to people, but with all my guy friends..and just like, any guy i meet, they just see me as a friend. i'm really friendly, but i can't get myself to flirt so they just consider me as "just another friend" and that's not what i'm going for more than half of the time. they're all guys i have had crushes on, and my best friend can easily get into relationships with ANY guy because she flirts. why can't i? is there any way i can fix this? because i don't want to be the girl that is "just a friend." :(





and i'm not ugly or anything, i'm pretty attractive but when guys flirt with me (at least i think they're flirting...) i don't flirt back (partially becausei don't know how) and it turns into a long and casual conversation.





thanks for any advice, i'll greatly appreciate it!

How am i supposed to flirt?
I had the same problem, hon...all of my guy friends saw me as a sister, not a girlfriend.


You just have to bat your eyes, touch them alot and use your body to communicate with them. Don't talk to them about your personal things, talk to them about things that they like. Dote on them and treat them good and you'll have them!!!
Reply:um don't flirt if they're gonna like u it doesn't matter if u do or don't anyways they'll still like ya, yaknowhaimean?
Reply:don't be afraid to mess around,kinda hard to explain how to flirt.don't get too personal tho, personal is ok but can go overboard
Reply:Ok, I'm 28 been there done that, so let me give you my imput. Teenage boys as we all know have pretty much one thing on their minds, and they are just as nervous about it all as we are, so when a girl flirts it makes it way easier for a guy, cause he thinks yeah i got this one. Some girls are flirtatious, and some are not, someguys like that, and some don't. Stop and ask yourself when you say your friend can get into a relationship with any guy, how long do they last? Do you think any of them have been in love with her? Guys take a flirt as being easy(I'm not saying she is, I'm just explaining the male mind) so of course they're gonna go for it. I know it sucks to sit back and be the one with out a boyfriend, but the reason you "can't" flirt is because thats not you, and believe it or not guys respect that way more, they don't think youre easy, and when the right one comes along, and you are his buddy that he can talk to, trust, and be comfortable with when it turns into more(and it will, I don't flirt either, so I know how youre feeling right now) your relationship will be that much stronger because you guys will already have a bond and a friendship, and he'll already have respect for you. Most relationships start out with the guy trying to "get some", looking for the one he thinks will be easiest. So don't try to become something youre not, you're personality is going to lead you into the prefect relationship you'll see.
Reply:I dont really know how to flirt either! Maybe if they smile at you, smile back and keep looking at them and smiling. I think that's how you flirt. Good luck!
Reply:I think when you start thinking about trying to do something, the harder it becomes - like trying not to be nervous, you just end feeling worse.





Constantly thinking "am I flirting enough? Should I be flirting? Is he flirting with me?" all through a conversation with someone is enough to drive you to severe distraction.





If you're worried about how to start, pick a boy to flirt with that you don't really want to date in the first place - (I know it sounds harsh, but I don't know how else you're going to get over these nerves) - and then just practice flirting and seeing the reaction you get.





If you don't get a very good response, it doesn't matter, you didn't want to date him anyway.


If you get an encouraging response, it'll spur you on to try it again.





Either way, you get the experience, so you win either way.





It's all a matter of practice, eventually you'll be able to get the guys you really like.