Why Do Guys Flirt?

Im in "love" with this guy and he says that he loves me to. But hes always flirting with someone. He says that he is a big flirt [and yes he is] so when he tells me that he loves me i tell him oh you are just flirting so he says i flirt because i love you. We went out but we had to break up because he was goin to another state. He was also my first one. I also flirt with him and he likes it. Hes coming to visit me on October so he says that he wants to be with me [sexually] and yea me to. He wants to be friends wit benefits but Im scared that I might love him more. I know he loves me...but i dont know..


whats you opinion??

Why Do Guys Flirt?
Guys flirt because they enjoy it. Same reason girls do it. If you're ok with friends with benefits then go for it. Don't let anyone here talk you out of it. Only you know what you want. I've done the FWB thing and it's always worked fine for me. I have a few FWB's right now as a matter of fact. You just have to decide what you want and what you can handle.
Reply:flirting can be so harmless. i love my man of many years and i still flirt. i never do it in front of him but i tell him that i am a big flirt.





i flirt because i like the attention received when someone hears what they want to hear. i flirt because i have been with my man soo long and havent experienced other men but i love their reactions to me.


i get daily invites and occasional proposals from random men and i flirt them away if that makes sense. i tell them no but with a smile and a pleasant conversation.





i guess that makes me a tease but its all in fun and is extremely harmless. im not a guy but their reasons can be just as simple and harmless.
Reply:Think carefully. Do you think a guy who flirts with other girls and is coming to see you for sex really loves you, just because he said so? You clearly know he wants to be friends with benefits (and nothing more), so don't be surprised that he is flirting. Guys flirt with women for two reasons: 1)they are attracted to that woman or 2)they are looking to eventually ask that woman out and have a relationship. You are reason no. 1 in this case.


Now it's up to you to decide whether that's okay with you or not. And believe me, it is not the sex that is going to make him decide he actually wants a relationship with you. But I can tell you one thing: you're going to have to wait a little longer before you "give it all up" if you want to attract a man of substance. God bless.
Reply:"Friends with benefits" is just another way of saying that he can do what he wants with whomever, and with you when he comes home to visit. It's not worth the hassle and you're better than that.





There's levels to flirting and a lot of people misconstrue just plain being nice for being a flirt. But if he's actually *flirting* with other girls the same way he flirts with you, then he's playing and he's in no way ready for anything serious. He's just looking for a good time (and probably sex).





You're much better off looking for someone who cares about you and who will be committed to YOU instead of flirting with any female who comes his way.





Good Luck!
Reply:Girls often confuse lust for love, and once you become intimate with someone the feelings often get stronger because girls attatch sex to emotions, guys on the other hand often dont. He is getting attention and sex from you so why would he want to be tied down in a commitment and prevent him from flirting or having other girls. This doesnt mean he doesnt care about you, it simply means he is getting what he wants and you are allowing it. i would see what happens if you say no to sex he may bolt and find someone else. And if he is young he jus doesnt want to be tied down. Guys and girls flirt because its fun and innocent and reasures you that you are attractive and people want you.
Reply:i usually give alot of advice but it seem like for this one you have to figure out what YOU want to do with this situation. Really think about it before you do anything. Good luck to you
Reply:Yeah I agree with Brandi, a friend with benefits (especially if you have feelings for him) will fulfill you for a few moments, but leave you feeling worse later. Tell him that you are seeing someone, OR that you are not "that" type of girl. Plus guys that flirt usually are cheaters and liars so even if he did ask you out on a real date you shouldnt go..because you will have a great date and when you go to the bathroom he will flirt with the girl outside or the girl in the concession stand.
Reply:Ohgosh,i would never have a friend with benefits,that is just wrong.


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Reply:My opinion is to contact him before he visits and tell him that you need to think things over. Don't argue with him, because he'll put on the charm to try and convince you. Big flirts know when to quit and he doesn't, which means he'll keep flirting with other women and worry you. He sounds like just another player in the game.
Reply:he likes the attention.
Reply:The FWB thing is great for guys, not so good for gals... I'll tell you why. Guys can separate love from sex, women can't do it so easily. You'll 'bond' with him and fall in love with him (if you aren't already) and you'll wind up getting hurt. There are the occasional gals who say they've made it work... but I think they're the exception. My advice would be don't do it. Move on, he just wants if for free... don't let him use you, you're worth WAY more than that. Find another guy you can flirt with, who'll only have eyes for you ;-)





Good luck!
Reply:Friend with benefits, are no nos! Especially when you have some feelings, because they get stronger with time. You need to let him know that you don't want that, speak your mind and tell him how you feel and that it will only make you care more...be honest with yourself and him!
Reply:Is he really a big flirt? Or he's just try to make fun to everyone?
Reply:He's not ready to be faithful. Having sex with others might be well intended, to leave you a virgin...guys date sluts but marry virgins.





But God told us not to commit "adultery" because he designed us to BOND with our mate. That keeps flirtatious fathers home with mom and the kids, because sex bonded them.





God told us "The two shall be as ONE!" Although he might reason that he'll just use those girls, and return to you when he's ready to settle diwn, this God-giving bonding might cause him to obsess over some one other than you.





As I write this I see how the situation might tempt you to try to bond him to you, but that adultery is where the heart-ache is. Stay pure, or you'll be hurt someday.
Reply:he's going to visit you because he wants to taste you girl..lol...
Reply:Guys flirt for the exact same reason gals flirt.





He's a flirt and you think you love him more than he loves you? Chances are, you're right.





He wants to be "friends with benefits"...and "yeah, you do, too"....you need to REALLY think about this...can you handle this at this point in your life? If you're unsure...."but I don't know"... you're not.





Your instincts are leading you right now, and they are right. Don't get deeper in a relationship that is this one-sided, it'll only lead to hurt feelings and disappointment.





I know I sound harsh and negative, but it's better to realize you MIGHT be better off just letting this guy go than risk the inevitable hurt you're going to feel because you can't accept his casual attitude toward "love" and "flirting".
Reply:yeh uh, we guys jus flirt cuz its fun. i mean if he luvs u dat much, an u do too, then jus go for it. i mean, idk. but anyways, yeah guess dats all.
Reply:NEVER have a friend with benefits. :/ It's just pathetic! I suggest dropping this guy immediately - he obviously has no REAL feelings for you, or respect, and is only in it for the sex. You deserve someone MUCH better! Best of luck.
Reply:If you care for him, and you cross that line again, you are just opening yourself up to getting hurt. Could you really "be with" him, and not have your feelings change at all?





Friends with benefits works better with people who never dated. Once you date the person who was broken up with could still have feelings and a physical relationship would make it harder on that person.
Reply:friends with benefits can only work if either person do not have a single bit of romantic feeling with one another. Unfortunately, in most cases, friends with benefit, there's always one getting hurt. You need to stand you ground and be strong if it's just sex then do as you please, but if you find yourself falling for him i would tell him straight and use your common sense as to whether or not he is going to use you for sex/
Reply:Look im a 36 year old man who has had his share of women .





I was a big flirt as you say the first thing i want you to remember is you are 18 you have your whole life to have sex its better later just wait


Now y do guys flirt because if i can get a response from a woman with my flirting im getting laid period there is no other reason to flirt then to hook up with the object of my attentions at that point .


so if any man or in your case boy is flirting with you you can be assured that he has flirted with a dozen others before he got to you and you were the most receptive .


If this boy has true feelings for you test him tell him you want to wait to have sex and that he needs to not pressure you do that for 3 months and if he is still dating you at the end of this time then rock his world


But i can say with pretty much 100% accuracy coming from a true flirt that the phone will stop ringing and he will move on to the next victim .


but if he waits and then hes a good guy and the only thing you loose is three month


you gain is 3 months of dates fun and the excitement of the night to come and most of all a best friend
Reply:friends with benefits always ends up a mess. relationship or no relationship. and that comes from a guy who has done it before :)